There is a very wide variety of trans-women operating amongst the comprehensive transgender landscape.
Factors affecting the desirability of transsexual women
In the eyes of those wanting to date transsexual women? All trans-girls are not created equal.
Following is the often highest-ranked criteria and things you might want to keep in mind about each feature.
Additional Chapters included in This Section Include:
Desirability of Transsexual Women
Transgenderdate: Factors Affecting Trans Desirability
Why Transsexuals Get GRS
The Most Balanced and Happy TS Women
Common Transgender Personalities
What is it like to be transsexual?
We live in a society where Madison Avenue did a great job defining beauty and teaching us that the prettiest girl - is the one we want. Pretty, in today's world? That means slender, tight bodied, healthy hair, a lovely smile: you know the drill.
If looks are your thing? You’re not in the minority. However, this also means your competition for the trans-girl of your dreams will be higher - and I'm talking geometrically higher.
It is not easy becoming a beautiful girl - starting with a guy's body. Quite frankly? It’s often a nightmare challenge. Some of us end up “attractive” as women - but the small handful that begin with an ideally suited male platform and create a stunning looking woman without lots of baggage? They’re in huge demand. You better be also drop-dead gorgeous, own a monumental bankroll you’re willing share or be the poster-child for persistence and patience if you ever hope to get anywhere with one of these girls.
Rarely, do most of start off thinking about “what we have to offer” when we scan personal ads - that’s just human nature. However, if you’re looking for a stunning transsexual girlfriend? Be realistic. They’re far more rare than their born-female counterparts - by default.
Keep in mind where we started!
More commonly, a guy will want a gal that’s very “passable” in hopes nobody will know she’s transgender. The first primary goal of any newly minted transsexual woman after going full-time is to become stealth in her presentation. Being read - is frustrating and humiliating.
However, the time and cost associated with that process is often long and expensive. I would opt for a kind girl whose underlying beauty is obvious. She’s eventually master stealth.
Smooth Bodied versus Unshaven
If you’re considering part-time trans-girls, body hair is often a key determinant. A lot of TG's are not in a position to keep their bodies smooth shaven. This is easy enough to cover by wearing multiple sets of pantyhose when out in public. I can assure you if this is an important cut-off criteria? You've cut your number of potential dates - significantly.
Friendliness & Personality Warmth
If you tried dating transgender women for very long, you probably rank this feature higher on the list than a beginner. Trans-women often become very standoffish and jaded by men during their transition and love journey’s.
Finding a very friendly transgender woman is the ultimate score.
Girls who "24/7" - quickly move past the "hot outfit" syndrome. It’s usually inappropriate. Also, the highest heels hurt - particularly after a long night. Hose and stockings are expensive, and get "runs" by simply looking at them wrong. If hot outfits are your thing? Be prepared to buy a full-time girl one - if you want to see her in it. Most experienced girls get tired of wearing them.
Most men attracted to transgenders are first drawn from erotic by images of transsexual women with stunning & feminine faces, long & healthy hair, full lips, large breasts, wide hips and a silicone pumped ass that rivals J-Lo…plus that special prize below.
As with mainstream women, most transgender ladies don’t rate as cover girls. Surgical enhancements are very expensive and once completed, often mean a gal now can’t work as a guy to pay her bills.
A zillion guys harbor a private fantasy of an encounter with a beautiful dominant shemale. However, of all your dreams? Finding a beautiful dominant transsexual female is the most unlikely. First off, transsexuals are usually very passive. Thus, there’s an inherent rarity from the onset.
Most gals that do this? Get paid for such services. If this is your thing? Get ready to cough up some cash.
The first question most trans-girls hear from male admirers is typically: "Are you a TV or TS?" That's actually a pretty fair question - even though we usually hate the comparison.
People often define a TV (Transvestite) is a man who enjoys wearing women's clothing and presenting himself in a feminine manner on a part-time basis. A TS (Transsexual) is usually defined as "a woman trapped in a man's body". A TS often plans to become a woman both in daily lifestyle, and anatomically.
Most admirers classify girls with breast growth as transsexuals - and girls without such augmentation as TV's. This might be accurate in the mirror, but as you'll learn - these two categories are just the tip of the iceberg. There are actually dozens of types of transgender women.
Additional Chapters included in This Section Include:
Why Transsexuals Get GRS
It's important to note that every girl is an individual. Like admirer's - rarely do you find a trans-girl that just fits into one single category. They often belong to several. However, most will identify with one group more than any other.
This section was written from the slant of admirers hoping to find the right t-girl for them.
Three Decades of Perspective
Public acceptance of transgenderism came a long way in the past decade. Only 10 years ago, when I first started going out in earnest, most the girls I saw were DRAG queens - gay men - dressed as women. DRAG is female impersonation: not transgenderism. During the old days - twenty years bad? If you were a transgender gal, (who didn't go through the process of breast enhancement and collagen-filled lips) a lot of the gays harassed you: suggesting - “get out of the dress", and accept the fact you were just using it as a crutch for actually being gay.
Part-time crossdressers weren't the only t-gals facing this discrimination. It was much more difficult for full time gals just starting transitioning to get any type of meaningful jobs. Those with "below average" education skills almost never found work. I knew many that walked the street's as prostitutes.
Today, a TS can find work just about anywhere, and there are even laws to protect them from sexual discrimination in some states. Tg's are usually accepted for whatever brand of sexuality they feel is right for them. In a t-friendly town like Atlanta, nobody usually hassles an average skilled transvestite out shopping.
This growing acceptance does not always equate to inner balance when it comes to sexual orientation. This is why you'll still find a lot of transsexuals that associate most closely with the gay community. In general, gays have been more accepting of our lifestyle than any other group.
Initially admirers were thought to be guys - who were really closeted or inhibited gay or bisexual. People considered their interest in t-girls as a step to exploring their gay or bi-sexuality. We've already learned there is a bit more to that equation. Likewise, there is a lot more types of t-girls than just a TV or a TS.
Types of Transgender Women
To begin to understand the psyche of a t-girl, you must first gain a better understanding of the basic types that exist. Beyond the fact they are or were once men born with a strong association to an inner feminine reality - the similarities in terms of their desire to spend any time with you - pretty much stops right there. The change occurs with their own sense of sexuality, their sexual orientation, and where they are going with the whole process.
One thing you'll quickly discern is these girls are not air heads They tend to have very high IQ's. The average person who goes through with a sex change operation is about three sig above the mean - or about 145 IQ. The average TV is about one sig above the mean. This high level of intelligence often equates typically equates to a fun person - with a very mischievous mind. ::))
Following is a basic snapshot of the transgender landscape:
The Early Stage Transgender Girl
Regardless of whether the early stage girl will remain a crossdresser or become a full blown transsexual, she typically has one common trait - pent up sexual fantasies. She usually has a desire to both express and share them - with someone else. From a sheer passion perspective, these girls are just dying to explore. Unfortunately, like most virgins, they're not always good at it.
She is also the most likely to get sexually aroused by simply dressing en fem. Although a t-girl who has been doing it a good while usually feels sexy when dressed, she rarely gets aroused by the process.
Pro's & Con's: Pro's: Often very aggressive sexually. You can catch a rising star - everybody started somewhere. They are the most open to finding new "friends". Con's: Usually not very passable. (I say usually, because there are rare girls who look awesome from the start). Many aren't smooth bodied. Often haven't learned the difference between fantasy and reality - example: that some thoughts are far better to remain fantasy - and no reality experience will match up to them.
Ideal Admirer Match: A male Eroticism lover not turned off by their lack of skill in femininity - or another t-girl in the same situation.
The Heterosexual Transvestite
This is the largest and most common group of t-girls. They often share the same pent up passion as the early stager, but for different reasons. Typically, they are not able to enjoy their fem side with their female spouse or significant other. The married ones have the most to lose in the event of indiscretion, and are much more careful than their single counterparts.
Most are only attracted to women, and would consider themselves quasi lesbian, when it comes to their sexual feelings while dressed. In fact, if you peeked into their personal inventory of "XXX movies" - you would likely find an inordinate number of lesbian flicks.
Pro's & Con's: They have usually spent a lot more time thinking about their sexuality than you have. To attempt to change their minds can be both an irritation - and an insult. I'm not saying they don't appreciate compliments - most TV's do. However, more blatant sexual contact to them feels about the same as another masculine guy coming up and grabbing your ass - it's disgusting and repulsive. Most can't be smooth bodied due to lifestyle considerations.
Ideal Admirer Match: Their own wife. A woman attracted to tg's.
The Experienced Transgender Girl
This individual has a good grasp of being transgendered, but has no plans on going further with the process. They usually look pretty good because they've been doing the fem thing for many years. I classify them really as a subset of other groups, but you'll notice a difference with them than other non full-time t-girls in their category due to their comfort & style with their transgenderism.
Pro's & Con's: Open to most every sexual adventure that fits within their orientation. However, they are smarter about who and how they'll explore. Tend to be a lot of fun. Tend to wear hot clothing, because the whole thing is only part time to them. Not on hormones - so fully functional yet feminine. No breast augmentation. Some stay smooth bodied, some don't. In demand, difficult to land. Experience can work against you, they've heard it all.
Ideal Admirer Match: Another experienced t-girl, Eroticism or Eroticism Plus Male types. Couples - really just depends on her sexual orientation.
The Tri-sexual Transgender Girl
By definition, these girls are attracted to all sexes, but the intensity for each such group, varies from girl to girl. They are typically very clear on their desire for attraction to different sexual groups - and it isn't likely you are going to change their minds on this subject - no matter how hard you might desire or even try. Their feminine appearance varies a lot by their experience and daily lifestyle demands.
Pro's & Con's: Open to most every sexual adventure. Don't forget to bring the rubbers! LOL
Ideal Admirer Match: Bisexual couples + pretty much anyone with passion. *Grin*