Reasons NOT to get GRS - Gender Reassignment Surgery for Transsexual Women
There’s numerous reasons for not having GRS. It’s expensive, there’s sometimes never ending complications, its major surgery with lots of required healing time & necessary dilating efforts and it sometimes doesn’t go as planned resulting in long term complications.
There’s also often "depth" issues: While many transsexual women get concerned over not being able to secret vaginal fluids during sexual intercourse, this problem is easily handled by lubricants that it almost a non-event. However, the issue of vaginal depth can be a challenging aspect of a successful SRS surgery.
Not Getting GRS - for All the Wrong Reasons
If you’re not planning to get GRS because you think it’s hotter being a “chick with a dick” - you’re in for lots of challenges, post-transition. Being “non op” is no cakewalk - particularly if you can’t seem to let go of letting the world know about your unique configuration.
I’m best equipped to speak for myself: I didn’t get GRS - never will. I navigated the myriad of legal and social issues with an orchiectomy (testicles removed), not touting my unique configuration publicly and embracing things I considered more important than being “complete” - namely: finding the sort of loving partner I desired.
If finding a suitable partner and getting married is a higher ranking goal than self actualization? I always advise transsexuals to not get final surgery? Why’s that? Because there’s lots more men and women seeking a functional transsexual than a post-operative version. Thus, you greatly increase your odds of finding your dream mate staying non-op.
In my own instance, this was doubly important since I always - and still do - identified as a “top” with my female lovers (I’m not into men). Also, I was and still am more masculine at the core than many of my brethren. Thus, a blend of genders felt fine with me, by nature.
This sort of path does require the help of modern medicine to make things work. I went through a phase with HRT where I had trouble maintaining an erection and that only got worse following my orchie. Thus, I now get a monthly shot of testosterone & take a daily pill of low-dose Ciallis in order to remain functional. Dialing in that concoction for optimal results and minimal side effects was no picnic.
It also requires a lot of confidence in your femininity. On more than one occasion I considered GRS earlier as I got overwhelmed from being trans. However, in my own situation, I discovered those issues weren’t necessarily going to be fixed by GRS: who sees beneath my skirt anyway? Almost nobody.
My unique path results in playful jabs from one of my closest friends - a long since post-operative transsexual woman who likes to jest I’m the consummate “shemale”. Coming from her? I take that as a compliment.
I’m most definitely unique - a poster child for a way of life called: “I am, what I am”. My path was right for me - I’m legally female, I enjoy the improved presentation from muscle atrophy and fat storage now eight years post-orchie and I’m well past most drama “being trans”. However, I can still please my partner consistent with my internal wiring.
Most importantly, I’m happy and living a fulfilling existence.
In the end - to me?
That’s all that mattered.
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Chapters in This Section include:
Reasons to get Gender Reassignment Surgery
Reasons NOT to Get Sexual Reassignment Surgery
Making Like Work as a Non-Op Transsexual
Other Chapters in This Section include:
Gender Reassignment Surgery
FFS Facial Feminization Surgery
Hormone Replacement Therapy for Transgender Women
MTF Transsexual Breast Enlargement
Injecting Silicone for Transsexual Women
Brazilian Hips and Buttock Enlargement
Transsexual Erections and Sexual Pleasure
Exercise, Fitness and Diet for Transsexual Women