Earlier Stage Gender Transition and Love
We all know this can be a very lonely path when it comes to love - particularly during that first five years when we’re intently “refining” and evolving. Personally? I was delusional when it came to love after I started transition. I always thought transsexual women were - like - the hottest creatures on the planet. I didn’t realize much of that sexualization doesn’t equate to finding real love. When I was only a part-time girl and first learning to flex my female sexuality? It was fine - even preferred - that a man or woman only wanted a discreet roll in the hay. Subsequently? That - just didn’t work.
If you're still buried in the process of transition, it's often tough to develop a worthwhile loving union. However, it's a good time to do some preliminary exploring - as long as you don't accumulate emotional scars in that discovery.
The good news? Things ultimately improve. Why’s that? Simple - eventually we’re much more confident, get a decent job, and present ourselves more appropriately. How could it not go better with that sort of improved platform?
There are a handful of exceptions to any rule - we certainly find them here, as well.
Relationship Success Models During Early Stage Gender Transition
The best example of quality love before “the decade rule” is those trans-women that stayed committed / married to their wife they were with before transition. While those couples often endured a heap of new marriage challenges - in the end? They still enjoyed a quality love relationship.
For those of us whose marriage didn’t survive transition or were never married? It’s rare to develop a high quality loving union until you’re stable “trans-wise”. Without that stability? We’re often hard for anyone to love.
The second example?
Some transgender-transgender love connections start during this phase of a trans-woman’s life. It’s often most natural to connect with another that so closely understands and sympathizes with our struggles. The hardest aspect of these connections? If one girl stars getting further ahead or behind personally, emotionally or in physical development. This same opportunity and challenges exists between the other trans-trans connection - between a transgender male and transgender female, as well.
The final example?
If you’re into men and starting off fairly feminine, there’s a decent number of guys willing to love and support the right girl during this process. The challenges are the same as the later stage girl. Finding a guy whose not actually closeted trans himself, a pervert and that you fully adore. Some guys offering such “support” aren’t the healthiest sorts. Too many trans-girls - struggling to survive in the face or transition reality - fall prey to men who promise to fulfill their dream: only to discover things are not as hoped.
If you’re considering moving across the country to start your “happily married wife-life” with a guy you’ve only met face-to-face a few times and most of your love connection is developed on-line and via phone? Well…I hope you understand how unlikely it is that will work out. ((hugs))
Chapters Includes in This Section include:
Finding Love as a Transsexual Woman
Essential Considerations for Transsexual Love
Cleaning Up Your Act Before Starting on a Love Journey
Early Stage Gender Transition and Love
Sorting Out Your Sexual Orientation as a TS Woman
Dating and Loving a Man - for Transsexual Women
The Secret to Finding the Perfect Man for Marriage - for TS Women
Lesbian Females with Transsexuals
Trans Lesbians: Love Between Two Transsexual Women
Transsexual Women that Love and Date Straight Females
Post Operative Transsexual Love