Dating and Loving a Man - for Transsexual Women
If your sexual and relationship orientation is primarily wired to men?
You’re in luck!
There’s never been a better time to find a suitable male partner - particularly if you’re pre-op or non-op.
Two big things changed:
1. Acceptance & awareness of transgender women rose dramatically. The payoff in this regard relates to your potential mate’s increased willingness to share that you’re transsexual with close friends and family. Just five years ago? That revelation caused quite a stink. Today? Assuming you’re fairly attractive, stealthy and maintain low-drama - most his friends will now just shrug and say: “That’s not really what I expected but she seems nice and you seem healthy - I’m happy for you.”
2. There’s a lot more men looking for a potential transsexual partners than there are TS women available and wired to masculine guys.
Male Characteristics that Create Challenges for Transsexual Women
Personalizing Male Indifference as Being Because Your Transsexual
A challenge of dating and loving a man for many transsexual women is embracing the indifference and selfishness of men in a loving union. They just don’t possess the need to nurture and grow the “relationship” of love like women. If you’re already naturally wired to guys? You know it - and embrace this as a byproduct of what makes men, men. However, if you’re a transsexual woman who evolved to now trying men - it can seem quite challenging.
A common mistake is for transsexual women to personalize this detachment & sexualization as trans-related: something they’re doing or not doing - because you’re a transsexual.
Men do this to all women. They’re not doing anything to anybody - they’re just being men.
Most Guys into Trans-Women Are Closeted Cross Dressers
The hardest part of dating masculine guys? A majority of those seeking a TS-partner are closeted cross dressers or harbor strong private fetish fantasies in this regard. Also, a large number fantasize of us - being the “top” during intimate encounters: ugh!
The happiest transsexual women embrace that pretty much every guy owns some sort of perverted sexual fantasy and just goes with that flow - within reason - if they really like and enjoy their guy.
Male Needs That Trans-Women Sometimes Overlook
There’s a couple of essential skills you’ll want to develop in order to best make a union succeed with a man “as a woman”. We all know about the communication barriers and inherent gender conflicts. However, there’s two other rings that can have a most dramatic impact on the quality of your love connection:
Don’t Forget Essential Male Needs
When most women think about what a man needs - they usually consider that which so often seems to want: sex!
However, there are two additional comforts every man needs from his most special lady - that he can’t get anyplace else, namely:
He Needs to be “Touched”
The need for “touch” is not a gender-based issue: it’s a human condition. Notably, women get lots of touch: they hold hands, rub each other’s shoulders, and hug one another quite often. These touches are acceptable and normal for most women.
However, it’s not socially acceptable for a man to do any of those touches with another man. Likewise, it’s not acceptable for a man to do these things with any other woman. Thus, a man’s only acceptable outlet to receive a comforting touch - is from his female partner.
Don’t forget to softly and lovingly touch your male partner often. He needs it badly!
He Needs to be Told He’s “Pretty”
Commonly, women will complain how rarely their man reassures them how attractive or “hot” they look. As women, we learn early-on that our appearance is a big part of our female identity. Men face similar self-image issues regarding admiration of their career and their ability to financially provide for loved ones.
Naturally, regardless of success with beauty or finances - both men and women often feel inadequate in terms of completely fulfilling these societal-driven roles.
Women who are insecure with their beauty will often bring up their beauty more than a more secure lady. These same women often insist their man constantly reassure them of their physical appeal.
However, when you stop and think about it? Women get constant positive affirmation from others regarding their physical appearance: including direct compliments from other women regarding their outfit, hair styling or coloring, make-up, weight loss etc. Such reassurance usually occurs daily - sometimes even more often. Likewise, man will offer similar compliments plus there’s the male classics: intense admiring stares plus cat calls & whistles.
What do men get in this regard?
Thus, from a sheer supply standpoint? They actually need this reassurance in more heavier and more frequent doses than their female counterparts.
Every human being likes to be considerably sexually and physically appealing. Reminding you man he’s hot - makes for a much happier man!
Chapters Includes in This Section include:
Finding Love as a Transsexual Woman
Essential Considerations for Transsexual Love
Cleaning Up Your Act Before Starting on a Love Journey
Early Stage Gender Transition and Love
Sorting Out Your Sexual Orientation as a TS Woman
Dating and Loving a Man - for Transsexual Women
The Secret to Finding the Perfect Man for Marriage - for TS Women
Lesbian Females with Transsexuals
Trans Lesbians: Love Between Two Transsexual Women
Transsexual Women that Love and Date Straight Females
Post Operative Transsexual Love