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Final Tips for Total Stealth for Transsexual Women


Still getting read more often than you would like?

Don’t feel bad: it happens. In fact, with the increased awareness of trans-women, it will continue to happen the rest of most of our lives.

The key to
not getting read as often remains the same for all of us:

Six Stealth Essentials for TS Women


1.
Confidence: This is the most important attribute. It takes time to achieve.
2.
Classy & Age Appropriate Fashion: A look that’s appropriate to your age, the event and your features is a huge key to stealth.
3.
Suitable Make Up: As with fashion, this changes based upon your age and features. Always look to improve!
4.
A Decent Female Voice: We rarely get this exactly where we want but its terrible when we hate using our voice.
5.
Healthy Hair: A healthy mane creates a better look. If you don’t own such hair naturally? Wear a wig, clips or extensions.
6.
A Friendly Smile: Women smile - at each other and much more often than men. If you’re not smiling? You’re getting stared at for all the wrong reasons!

Chapters in This Section include:

MTF Gender Transition Introduction
Secrets to a More Successful MTF Transition
Non-verbal Female Communication Skills
Five Keys to MTF Transition Success
Ten Most Common MTF Transition Traps
Finding an MTF Transition Mentor
Choosing Your New Name as a TS Woman
The Stealthy Transsexual Woman
Total Stealth for MTF Transsexual
Surviving an MTF Transition
Five Mistakes Transsexual Most Often Make with Transition
Success with a Partial Transition
Transgender Depression and Suicide
Shortcuts to a Successful MTF Transition
Final Steps to MTF Gender Transition

Hope it helps!

There’s also a couple of habits I find helpful for beginning trans women, including:

Proper Feminine Sway of Hips for Transsexuals


Learning to unconsciously walk and sway like a woman is another essential skill you should have mastered by now. When I first started? I swished like a very gay-guy - not like a born-woman.
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consciously swing. Women sway from the difference in how they walk vs. men.

What’s the difference? Women
lead with the thigh vs. foot - with each new step. This process results in shorter strides, the feet and heels staying closer to the ground, and it causes the hips to naturally sway as the thigh forward pulls the opposite side of the hip with each step. It’s not - and need not be - dramatic. However, it’s the sort of graceful movement you’ll want to master.

Dancing…like a woman

One other final skill I suggest you develop?

Learning to
dance decently as a woman. Men & women “dance” very differently. In actuality, dancing just exaggerates their in-born movements: men usually dance using the ‘ole “in & out” movement with the hips. Women dance moving from side-to-side.

How do you learn to sway your hips and body seductively on the dance floor? If most of your moves will be shared in a nightclub, I would suggest you buy and study a DVD you can get from Amazon entitled: “
Sexy Moves for the Club”. This course includes detailed instruction for women on the mechanics of alluring hip movements for the dance floor.


Have fun!

The Five Most Common Mistakes Transsexuals Make that Hinders Stealth


There’s a few common mistake new girls often make at the start of transition which gets them read most quickly. I made ‘em, others made them - I just don’t want you to make them: okay?

I discuss the value of finding a physical mentor - a physical role model - if you will. However, your physical transformation is only a small part of
becoming female. Amazingly? It’s perhaps the easiest part. That’s saying a lot - because its expensive, time consuming and grueling.

Just remember: happiness doesn't have a gender - nor does love.

Common Mistake #1: Not Smiling at Other Women



Women use far more non-verbal communication with their eyes & glances than men. The biggest challenge for most new transgender women is they’re nervous and shy. Guess what? Other women read this quickly and perceive “something is wrong” with you.

Women constantly
say “hello” to one another with a smile. Thus, I want you to get in the habit of walking around with a smile on your face.

At the very least?

Maintain a friendly smirk.

Chapters in This Section include:

MTF Gender Transition Introduction
Secrets to a More Successful MTF Transition
Non-verbal Female Communication Skills
Five Keys to MTF Transition Success
Ten Most Common MTF Transition Traps
Finding an MTF Transition Mentor
Choosing Your New Name as a TS Woman
The Stealthy Transsexual Woman
Total Stealth for MTF Transsexual
Surviving an MTF Transition
Five Mistakes Transsexual Most Often Make with Transition
Success with a Partial Transition
Transgender Depression and Suicide
Shortcuts to a Successful MTF Transition
Final Steps to MTF Gender Transition

Hope it helps!

Common Mistake #2: Taking Compliments from other women too literally



Women constantly offer praise to any new woman they encounter: you have great legs, wish I had your hips, love your shoes. As beginning transgender women? We have to learn not to take these compliments too literally. Also, when you receive such a compliment? -Say thank you and return the favor with similar comments regarding their ensemble or physical features.

We’re so starved for positive attention early in our journey. However, we stand out as men - when we take these comments too literally and don’t hand them back.

This is a female culture thing: it’s not about us. ((hugs))

Common Mistake #3: Quitting on Improving



Another common shortcoming for transsexuals is we tire of all the hard work related to constantly refining & improving our feminine presentation - be it through surgeries, voice practice, fashion development or general nuances.

If this happens to you: you won’t be the first transsexual woman to get burned-out by the long journey & finally state: “You know what world? I just am, who I am”.

That’s okay - take a deep breath. Start again tomorrow.
Never stop learning or improving!

“You Just Landed in China”

Imagine if you suddenly found yourself in China - with no understanding of the language, acceptable fashion, local customs, etc. In order to rebuild a happy and successful life in this new culture you not only have
look like a Mandarin woman but to be accepted - you must also be thoroughly familiar with all the nuances and customs.

We’re not alone in this sort of journey. Ever noticed the anger some indigenous Americans harbor towards immigrants that haven’t perfected our language or who continue customs from their homeland? It’s just human nature for people to need you to conform to an established norm - particularly if your actions occur close to their home.

These parallels are identical for a gender transition.

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Common Mistake #4: Inappropriate Fashion



Inappropriate fashion is by far the most common reason we get read as trans in mainstream society. Dressing too young, wearing an outfit that’s too revealing, adorning shoes that are too high, wearing too much make-up - all these habits outside established norms cause trouble.

There’s a time and place for every look and every outfit. Your life will go smoother and be more joyous if you’re not constantly standing-out through your fashion.

Its a far greater aim to be recognized for your kindness.

Common Mistake #5: Lack of Confidence



When I first went full-time, I was perhaps one of the least confident transsexual women on the planet. I was very uncomfortable with my life and probably could have made a living as a mime since I became so skilled at carrying on a complete conversation with just my hands and eyes as I tried in vain not to use my voice and thus reveal my prior gender.

Likewise, I walked around with slumped shoulders and my eyes cast downward. Guess what? These habits only added to my frustration: they made me stand out even more.

Work hard on your voice practice and at the very least? Perfect the most common phrases.

Stand tall, shoulders back, put a smile on your face.

You’ve got this, GF!