with a Transgender Female
I’m assuming you know by now that if you call your transsexual girlfriend a “shemale”? Sex - is probably the last thing you’ll get.
Sex with a Transsexual Woman
Sex with a transgender woman is not nearly as different from intimacy with a born-gal as some think.
Lets hope you already shared a passionate kiss: we all tend to need a requisite amount of romance before jumping in the sack. I mention that first - because a bit of residual facial hair is common for most TS women. You might not see it: but you’ll perhaps feel it during a hot kiss.
What’s the same?
Emotional Vulnerability from Sex - As with our born female counterparts, transsexual women are also made emotionally vulnerable from sharing sexual intimacy. This is because of hard wiring (a female brain) and reduced testosterone (from t-blockers or surgeries). Thus, we can’t easily dissociate sex from love-like feelings. Yeah…I know: you wish that feature was left out. *Laugh*
What Varies from One Transsexual Woman to Another When it comes to sex?
There is a VERY wide variety :
Passability: Being “passable” as a transsexual woman is a function of many things - and a very long and grueling process to achieve. It requires creating a feminine appearance and developing a style that causes her to not stand out as transgender. While some transgender women start off very feminine in their appearance from the onset - most don’t. Our voices are perhaps the most challenging aspect to make into a flawless presentation. Thus, becoming very passable is a long, expensive and grueling evolution.
Wigs & Extensions versus her real hair: Most guys would much prefer a TS woman whose hair is all her own. Alas, most trans-women would prefer a guy whose 6’3, with a nice physique and lots of income. Alas? We get what we get. Few transsexual women are able to get by with just their own hair. For some? They must wear wigs 24/7. For others? That thick and healthy mane is derived from hair extensions. If that bothers you? You need to get over it - in a hurry!
Facial hair stubble: I can’t begin to describe the pain, cost and time associated with facial hair removal for most transsexual women. Electrolysis is a brutal process: comparable to having a bee sting you lip. Now, imagine that bee sting occurring for two hours straight, three days a week - for two years. And yes - you’re swollen from those stings each day after treatment. Even after completing a thorough run of electro - many transsexual women still have some residual facial hair stubble. It doesn’t show outwardly - which is why its not worth going back through the anguish of more electrolysis. However, when you kiss her passionately? You might feel it.
Body hair stubble: Years of HRT therapy and/or an orchiectomy or GRS plus a thorough shaving usually creates a very smooth body for a TS woman. However, even then - our body hair tends to grow back faster and more coarse than our born women counterparts. It’s not something we like or can help - just comes with the turf. If you’re girlfriend is a part-time cross dresser? Even complete shaving won’t sometimes fully remove the stubble - although this is usually only noticed if she’s pressed against the smoother skin of a born-female.
Breast Augmentation: Yeah, every trans woman and most of the people attracted to them tends to like it when they own a full pair of breasts. Many admirer’s distinguish a transsexual from a cross dresser by this feature.
Our breast growth starts with a hormone replacement regimen which results in a certain amount of breast tissue growth comparable to pre-teen females. For some TS women - this growth from HRT is more pronounced - depending upon the genetics inherited from her mother and the intensity of the regimen she’s undergoing.
Most often, full time TS women use this platform to install breast implants that look ideally feminine. Although some TS stick with their HRT induced breasts - either because of limited financial means or personal preference.
Hips & Buttocks Augmentation: A very small handful of trans-women were born with a fairly natural feminine ass. However, those “big ass” images you see in porn on certain trans-women? Those are all man-made.
Body Softness: That outer layer of softness found on most women’s bodies is less prevalent with transsexual women - depending upon how long she’s been on testosterone blockers, had an orchiectomy (testicales removed) or GRS.
Her Feelings about her penis when it comes to sexual relations: Transsexual women vary widely about how they feel about their penis - particularly when it comes to sexual relations. For some? They do everything possible to pretend it doesn’t exist. Thus, with such a gal - she won’t want you to look at it, touch it, etc. during sex. She pretends it never existed and would prefer you do that same.
Other girls are a bit more open and playful regarding their male appendage. They often call it their “clit”. If they’re aroused - they’ll say they’re “wet”. They’ll refer to their ass as their pussy, etc. You get the idea…they make the best of what they have going.
Many gals can’t get or stay erect. Its a common side effect from many years of HRT therapy.
Lots of guys naturally attracted to pre & non-op transsexual women absolutely love giving oral sex to their transsexual female partner. To those men - the imagery of staring up at a lovely female face and large breasts while having her appendage between this lips is overwhelmingly erotic and exciting.
We know this. However, if you fixate on it? It will weird her out.
99% of transsexual women identify as “bottom”. They rarely have any desire or willingness to be the top in an intimate union.
Escort Overload Issues
Most know I’m a huge fan of guys first exploring their transgender fantasies with a paid escort. However, I discovered that guys can get too much experience in this regard - and lose sight of what relationship-type intimacy is all about.
Shemale Sex: The Exciting Oral Sex Paradox
For a lot of people attracted to transsexuals, the most exciting first fantasy is taking her orally while staring up at her breasts & a pretty female face. It’s the total visual & physical paradox.
The only challenge with these sorts of desires & leanings is when you obsess on them. Makes her feel like “anyone” could be there…she’s just an accoutrement to your fantasy.
She Wants a guy with a large penis
Some guys get put off by how quickly a trans girl will ask about the size of his endowment. A larger size means nothing in terms of true satisfaction – rather – it’s a visual stimulant. Lots of men are also drawn to particular physical features as visual stimulants. Large breasts, a certain size & shape of buttocks.
Considering the fact her only way to consummate sexual intercourse is through anal sex, a larger penis is not really going to make things better.
Other girls are bothered if their own endowment is larger than their sexual partner…it feels weird & some guys can’t stay aroused because they feel intimidated. “I just found it best to only sleep with guys I know are larger than my own”.
Anal Sex Tips for people not into pain
I've helped a lot of my straight girl sisters with discovering the joys of anal sex / anal play.
Anal Play for Anal Sex….penis penetration vs. rimming
Step One – you have to want to do it. If it’s just for your partner’s desire it might not work for you. Analogy / why?
Step Two – it’s all about relaxation…lots of people first try it all excited or geeked out. Expecting joy like they’ve watched in a porno only to experience SEVERE pain.
Positions – best for beginner is missionary + why
The inch at a time rule
You can’t use too much lube
introduction - from your hostess - "dr. renee"
I've visited a lot of my sister's home pages. However, I've yet to see any girl take the subject of t-sex - "head" on. ::)) Being somewhat of the Net's "ask me anything" t-chick", I've decided to do so. Those of you who know me personally would agree: shyness - is not the "first" word that comes to mind when you think of "Renee". LOL
It's actually quite amazing when you think of it. The main reason most of you are at my home page, is in some manner tied to your sexual desires. Most of us girls dress more and more fem, to make us feel more sexy. Why nobody wants to talk about the realities of "sex" is beyond me. Well actually - obviously - it's not! *Grin*
Fortunately for the reader, I've had some experience in the sex department. Unfortunately for Renee - it hasn't all been pleasant. I'm going to share what I feel will make yours better, based upon my "adventures" - and a few insights from some of my close girlfriends.
You may agree with some of my opinions - disagree with others. However, if you're relatively new to transgender related sex issues, you'll certainly walk away with some fresh perspectives.
Wanna get naked with a t-girl? Sounds inviting, no? Before you drop your drawers and dive head first into t-sex, there are a few basic issues you'll want to be aware.
The first thing I'd suggest (if you haven't already done so), is that you review my analysis of the types of t-girls you'll likely encounter. It will give you a better grasp of some of the ideas & opinions I'm about to share: t-girl psychology 101
Hmmmm. Let's see... soft, flowing hair; long smooth legs; full, kissable lips; ... wait a minute... what's that extra bulge at my panties? Okay, you got me. ::))
I'm a t-girl - and quite proud of it. In fact, I'm as proud of the masculine bulge at my midsection, as I am my feminine demeanor - both are simply - who I am. All us girls vary in terms of if we wish to be considered "females", "transsexuals", "males", "t-girl's", etc. However, we all have one thing in common - we start with something "extra" between our thighs.
Even though I don't care for the term, unless you're dealing with a former SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery) candidate, the girl in your arms is most certainly a "chick with a dick". Because of this anatomical variation, sex with this creature is certainly going to be a "bit" different from that of a genetic female. The variation in plumbing dictates a modified approach to pleasure - for every "body". ::)) For some strange reason, a lot of newcomers seem to forget this "little fact" - until the last minute. They get all caught up in thinking about the thrill of finally getting to it - then get lost - on how to really provide any meaningful enjoyment after the fact.
When you first hold her closely, you will likely notice she feels different than a comparable GG. Her loins are usually thicker - and more powerful than her female counterpart of a similar height. If you've ever been intimate with a female bodybuilder, you'll know exactly what you're in for. If not, just expect a good, solid ride. ::))
One thing I'd advise you to prepare for is a little razor burn from kissing. This will be particularly true if you meet a girl after she's been out a number of hours - and nature has begun to take it's course in facial hair growth. You might not see it beneath all that make up - but it's there - and you'll feel it if you kiss. The exception to this rule is girls who have undergone laser hair removal, electrolysis, or extensive hormone therapy.
Personally, as much as I absolutely love kissing during sex, I tend to be reluctant to do much of it as "Renee". Why? The full lips you see in my photo's aren't "all mine" - a lot of it is make up artistry. By kissing, I smear "the canvas" - which doesn't make me feel as feminine - which in turn makes me not feel - as sexy - which in turn - oh, you get the picture! Ask your girl about her feelings on heavy kissing - before you pucker up.
If you're dealing with a girl that has breast enhancements, you'll likely have a hard time keeping her "tits" in her bra. ::)) Most girls are quite proud of this "development", and usually aren't shy about showing them off. However, if your t-friend does not have such augmentation, she might not feel as comfy removing her bra. The exception is the gay tg or "DRAG Queen". Most of them are only too happy to get out of their female regalia, when it comes to sex.
"Flat-chested" women are often shy in this same manner. A lot of t-girls are sensitive about those features which do not look and feel feminine - and these feelings can be heightened at the moment of intimacy. Be sensitive to this emotion and you'll do best. A well timed compliment can work wonders here.
tops & bottoms
No, I'm not referring to bathing suits. Sexual tops are traditionally defined as the aggressor during intimacy. They’re also the one typically performing the act of intercourse. Bottoms are the more passive sexual partner – usually on the receiving end of the stick.
Very few trans-women consider themselves tops. Most are highly feminine and consider the traditionally yielding role of the female as an integral part of their womanly persona. Some are versatile - meaning they both give and receive - but this is most common only in the t-girl/t-girl sexual encounter. In fact, I've seen some tg's who are "tops" with other t-girls, but "bottoms" with masculine males. As a general rule amongst bi-sexual tg's, most are interested in "receiving".
The one "t-group" that bucks this trend is the "gay t-girl". In this group, you will find about half to be tops - assuming hormones have not affected her ability to achieve an erection. Don't ask me to explain why this is the case - I really don't know. I'm guessing it has something to do with how much easier it is to achieve sexual satisfaction on the "top" - and most gays I know understand how important satisfaction is to sexual pleasure.
Incidentally, it is not considered "tactless" to clarify this issue relatively early with a t-girl. Certainly before you go off to crawl between the sheets - but not until she's made it clear she has a desire to do so.
There are three types of safety you'll need to consider. First, would be the basic Freudian concern of "is somebody going to try and hurt you". The second issue is sexually transmitted diseases. The final safety matter has to do with your "reputation" - namely - indiscretion.
I never cease to be amazed by the lack of concern over bodily safety some male admirers will endure to be intimate with a t-girl. Certainly, it's an all time classic case of the "little head thinking for the big head". ::)) Primarily, this relates to guys who are picking girls up off the street. There are just a lot of inherent risks with such encounters.
If you are hooking up with a "non-working" t-girl, then the safety factor usually becomes more her concern, than yours. She has fewer options for "protection", than a masculine male. A girl who would go off to be intimate with some strange guy is a fool in my book. Most would never call the police if the guy got out of line (for fear of exposure), and few consider what they would do in such a crisis. You'll need to address her concerns regarding bodily safety, if you expect her to seriously consider meeting you privately.
A lot of married admirers were already "hitched" before the AIDS epidemic went into full throttle. Many are the most careless in this regard than any other "group". Sexually transmitted diseases are a reality in today's world. Please keep in mind the dangers of unprotected sexual activities.
It's really quite simple: "Don't do it!"
Many people attracted to tg's are concerned about indiscretion. They fret over the possibility of "her" telling someone about their little encounter. I have found this to be the least of your worries. If a girl is not "full time", she will most certainly be as much or more concerned about indiscretion than you will be. Why do you think she's not full time?
A full time professional girl is just that - a professional. She is interested in being paid for services rendered and being treated nicely. Take care of the latter, and you'll rarely have to worry about indiscretion.
Ironically, the most potentially "troublesome" girl is the full time TS that is not a professional. Sex with her is on "equal footing" from the start. If you are sincere, you couldn't ask for a better situation. However, if you are only playing a "game", well - beware or her wrath - if ya break her heart!
"T-Girl & Male Admirer Sex"
how to get to heaven without having to die
Unfortunately for male admirer's, most tg's are not sexually attracted to masculine men. However, I've seen more than one who professed no such desire - end up doing it "once or twice". Sometimes, they got a "wild hair" - or just met an admirer that "did it" for them at the right moment. Let's face it, everybody gets extra horny - now and then. ::))
You catch the right girl, on the right night, at the right moment - and she'll do damn near "anything". "Timing" has a lot to do with sexual desires. Ever seen a woman that wasn't the case? ::)) Remember - these "guys" are now "girls" - which means "moods" & "maybe's" - have become staples in their everyday vocabularies. Sucks, doesn't it? LOL
Some admirer's get a little pissed at the "cynicism" they receive from t-girls when out, or "on-line". Where do you think this attitude came from, sweetie?
Here's a little reality check from a girl that's been doing the "fem thing" for a very long time: most admirer's are basically "full of crap". They often talk about what they've "fantasized about" - in the same manner as what they actually desire. They'll talk about what "they'll do" - with no conscious concern on the difference in this statement - and reality. Most would never really "date" a t-girl, and amongst the few who would - about 1% would introduce them to a friend.
What does that feel like for a t-girl? The best way I can relate it: If you had a "job" - where you are asked to do a ton of work - but received no compensation or recognition. Ever had one of those? Not fun, was it?
Some of you I've corresponded with, continue your triage about not using a "professional" t-girl. Instead, you simply "hone" your skills - to shit on a girl who is totally sincere. Most of you just run around breaking hearts, without the first thought of how "she" might have felt. You will find some girls who are just out for the sex, but the lion's share require something else - to make intimacy special.
Most admirer's "t-urges" are spawned from having lusted over girls from on-line pornography, transsexual magazines, and XXX t-video's. It is one thing to look at such graphic representations and masturbate to mental images of you in the arms of this creature. It is quite another to realize this is a living, breathing, human being - with feelings and emotions just like any other girl. Sort of takes the edge off it for a second, doesn't it? ::))
Intimacy has very little to do with how much - or how little - you are wearing. It has to do with how much of yourself is shared with someone else. The platform for a high level of intimacy is already in place: as both male admirers and their t-girl counterparts start with more common thread than first meets the eye. Both share a desire (or "fetish", in real world terms) for a different brand of sexuality. Both can rarely share their unique desires with members of their daily clan. However, many male admirers forget there is a person beneath all that hair and make up. Bonding with this individual can make for much more pleasure than you could ever imagine!
The reason so many t-girls are attracted to "one another" versus male admirers runs much deeper than the "lace and garters". It is a shared sense of comradery that is rarely enjoyed with a masculine man. It is a knowledge you are appreciated and understood on all levels - for who you are, where you've been, what you've learned in the process, and where you're going.
One of my favorite summations of this matter was written by the Lebanese poet, philosopher and artist - Kahlil Gibran. "Everyone can hear... but only the sensitive can understand". As ironic as it may sound, sensitivity is the key - to the best sex of your life! ((hugs))
I am a "lucky" t-girl. Renee is "financially secure". I don't know how my sisters on more limited budgets afford all their "stuff" they must buy. Every different "look" is $200 in make up; every separate hot "style" is $300 worth of clothes, shoes, jewelry & trimmings - not to mention the "basics". Never mind what that "other guy" in her life requires to look "presentable" - I just keep "mine" to pay the bills anyway! LOL
I'm going to put this as straight as I can, hon. You don't have to pay for the pleasure. You certainly don't need to show up at your date with the Hope Diamond (unless you come knocking on my door, of course - *grin*). However, you damn well better exhibit a little appreciation for all she goes through to look lovely and feminine. She has endured more humiliation from a tg-rude employee at Wal-Mart - than you'll likely taste all year.
the right girl for you
The most important question you must address is: "Why do you want to do this in the first place"? We all tend to do a lot of things in life without first considering our motivations.
If you don't know what you're doing sexually - you can be in for a big mess. Any girl - "GG" or "T" - senses awkwardness just like "babies". Ever seen a person who doesn't know how hold an infant? The child gets irritated in a hurry. They start screaming and crying, and they move on to a person who knows how to make them feel all "comfy".
Let me let you in on a little "secret" for you newcomers. Sexual satisfaction with a "t-girl" - is different from GG's. It takes a little experience to be good at it. If you are not, it isn't going to be any fun for her - and likely won't be for you.
I know in a matter of seconds if I'm in the arms of an experienced lover - or a neophyte. Quite frankly, it isn't comforting to offer yourself to someone who doesn't know what they're doing. Why would I be motivated to want to teach someone I just met about "sex"? We're not 15 years old, hon.
For many of you the best option is to simply keep this whole thing a fantasy. It's easy, cheap, and not nearly as messy. LOL
This is particularly true if you would term yourself a cross dresser at heart. Why? Because if you're like most "hidden girls" - deep down inside - you are going to want to be the passive partner - and it's unlikely your new t-friend has much interest in relinquishing that role.
If any of the above scenario's apply to you - I'd still like to insist - as I did in my "how to meet a t-girl" section - you focus your initial sites on professional t-girls.
the road to heaven
Okay guys, I've been a little hard on you here. Still love me? ::)) I'll bet you couldn't wait to read this section...what a bummer, huh? LOL I had my motivations for being so straight forward. Did I just say "straight"? ::))
First, as unbelievable as it may seem, I think sex is pretty special. As I'm sure you've guessed, I feel t-girls are "extra" special. Therefore, I don't want to see such a super special occasion wasted on someone who doesn't deserve it. If you're still reading, then my guess is you're more sincere than most. Now let's talk about the "fun stuff". ::))
quick points of order
I have written a lot of information on my web page - from the perspective of a masculine male admirer. In case you're not aware, I started my t-life in this role - and recall the good and bad all too well. Most guys are under the impression that since they have a male sex organ - they will automatically know what feels good to another individual with the same equipment. Problem is, they might know the feeling - but they often know "zilch" about how to deliver the goods.
During their first time with a t-girl, most guys are fixated with touching and tasting her penis. The unique combination of smooth skin, hairless scrotum, silky garments and the sex of a male is sometimes enough to make the whole event "pleasurable" for the guy.
It's nice that you can have so much fun doing so, but it often does little for her, after the first minute or so. Everyone likes to know they're desired, but when your focus is more of an obsession, it reduces the pleasure.
Also, if you've never had sex with a t-girl, do both of us a favor and don't be afraid to "ask questions" during the process. I know most of you can't stand the thought of "stopping and asking directions" ::)). However, this is one piece of real estate where you can get lost in a hurry - regardless of how "familiar" the terrain appears at first glance.
the secret to great sex
Okay, boys - I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Having been in the role of both a guy and a gal in the sack over the course of my life, I've had the unique experience of living and enjoying both sides of the spectrum. There are a million things I could tell you that might help, but none so important as this: focus! What do I mean by focus? Simple. It doesn't matter if you are focusing on a romantic dinner, a hot kiss, or the best oral sex of your life - don't get distracted from the person or "object" in front of you..
As men, we are notorious for maintaining completely separate agendas to the one at hand. We take women to nice places in order "to get some". We buy them a gift - to get some. We "smooze" for hours - to get some. For once in your life - try a gift because she deserves it, a dinner because it would be nice, and "smoozing" - in order to really get to know her thoughts and feelings. Sex for women is typically a much deeper emotional experience than men. Getting her excited in her heart - will keep everything at a fever pitch in her panties. Pleasure doesn't always include an orgasm from your "buddy" between your thighs. Other parts of your body can enjoy similar heightened pleasure.
I'm not saying you should stop and offer a flower in the midst of heated sex. Most girls would agree men can actually get too gentle and astray at that "moment".
Try to imagine a world where there was only one option - in everything you do. Picture a world where there is no "number two" on your "list". Try living in that unique world when you are with her. It will result in better sex - I promise! ::))
I don't include "direct access" to this "area" via my standard home page "indexes" - for personal reasons. Namely, I "share" my web page with many of my closest friend and family. Although they're more understanding than most - I felt this "particular" data might be a bit more than some could stomach.
Additionally, I've not enjoyed the image some subjects I address on my home page seems to project with me in the transgender community. I shall forever recall a who came up to me at SCC 2001 in a hallway and asked "Are you Renee Reyes?" Wow, you seem so different, I thought you were this big-time bisexual".
This person had not even talked with me once - and "that" was her impression. I'm less promiscuous than 90% of the t-girls I know. I suppose in fairness - I'd say I'm less promiscuous "now".
Still, I felt I needed to include this information "somewhere" on my home page. Why? Because I believe sexual pleasure - is not a dirty act. Rather, I consider it a special gift - for all mankind.
I'm not sure how you found your way into this "section" of reneereyes.com. I attempted to keep "the link" hidden within my web site.
Perhaps a sister provided you with the link - or maybe you "discovered" the doorway by accident. Maybe it was discovered via key words from a search engine. However you got here - "welcome". ((hugs))
I really do not wish "to hide" this area from any sister that might find its content of benefit. As I mentioned earlier, I "don't" include it in the "index". If you know of anyone who might learn from it - please - by all means share "the gateway". *Smile*
I sincerely hope you find "something" useful - in your road to pleasure!
the dirty deed
Finding intimate satisfaction as a t-girl - tends to require some "new skill development". My objective is to provide you with a few tools and fresh ideas that might add pleasure to any union. Some of the data will seem overly unsophisticated to many of you. You "whoremongers" - will likely laugh at its simplicity. *Grin* Since I don't know what "experience" each gal has had to date - I felt compelled to go overboard in explanations - rather than leave anybody "hanging". *Smile*
I never realized I would stir up such a fuss when I first added "sex" to my home page. Most comments were positive. I expected -and received - a few "holier than thou" letters. Those of you who know me personally are aware I don't shy away from controversy. I don't enjoy disagreeing with others - but I also don't enjoy keeping my thoughts "hidden". In other words - I can't keep my mouth shut. *Grin*
As I suspected, a lot of new girls were very curious about exploring "this aspect" of their femininity. However, it was obvious from letters that people desired more information on the "details" of making "t-sex" pleasurable.
In the other parts of this section, I've discussed the warnings, emotional issues, dangers, pro's and con's, ideal partner selection - the works. Here, I'm going to assume your mind is made up - and there's no turning back - you are going to try it.
Since I'm partial to providing advice to my "sisters" - my comments will be slanted towards their role in the matter. However, it doesn't take an overly bright "male admirer" to understand how to reverse "positions" - and get ideas on how to make his t-lover a bit more blissful as well.
It's difficult to provide any meaningful information on "actual sex" - without getting a tad bit crude. I'm not crude by nature - except when I reach that fever pitch - when just about anything will come out of my mouth. LOL I'll try to cover this subject as exacting - "as professionally" - and as lady like - as "Renee" can.
Are you ready? Good! Now ditch the cotton underwear GF - let's get down to business! ::))
I really doubt I need to bring this up - but I'd hate to leave any stone unturned. Absolute pleasure from sex is a function of many things - not the least of which is that you feel "sexy". I know of no easier means to achieving this goal than wearing something that makes you feel "hot". Try not to worry with what your lover "prefers". As t-girls, we tend to face a myriad of challenges in looking highly feminine when we wear "less & less". If you want to hide that belly - then wear that corset for the duration. Hate those hairy legs - then leave on the pantyhose - and cut away access to your "friend". In other words, it's key that you like what YOU see in the mirror. Feeling sexy - is the ultimate aphrodisiac!
One thing you might want to consider is which "wig" you'll don for such fun. Rolling around in the sheets, sleeping on pillows, etc - is very hard on a wig. Such activity causes them to lose a great deal of their "shape and body". I'd suggest you choose one "exclusively" for your "wild woman" activities - and let "her" - endure the heap of abuse from sexual explorations.
I keep separate wigs for performing, clubbing - and of course - my "fun". I call mine "Miss Thang" - and I'm really glad she can't talk. LOL The best ones for such commotion are usually "short and straight" with no frills. Such wigs require little subsequent "restyling" - and don't get in the way of "anything". Catch my drift? *Smile*
lips that last
One thing sexual fun tends to trash in a hurry - is your lipstick. I love my lips looking feminine - makes me feel most sexy. However, between kissing and "whatever" - they tend to get trashed during sexual fun. In my new makeover section, you'll find my method for painting lips that will endure all but the most aggressive kissing. If this is important to you - you might try it. *S*
next to godliness
There is nothing so disgusting (at least to Renee) than to get your head between a pair of legs - and feel like you just walked into a locker room - or worse! Buried in the confines of our clothing, our midsections often have little chance to "air out" prior to sexual activity. If you don't have a chance to shower prior to your fun, try visiting the ladies room and giving yourself a little "sponge bath" while adding a touch of your favorite fragrance "down there". It really helps. I'd also suggest you ask your lover to follow a similar regimen - for both of your pleasure.
Ahem! Okay, we 'gotta carry this a bit further...
Most t-girls I know would classify themselves as "bottoms" when it comes to sexual activity. Basically, they prefer to be on the receiving end of the "stick". Why? Doing so puts them into the more "exacting role" of a female - and all which that implies. As a guy, most t-girls have never had to deal with the potential "horrors" from sexual activity inside their bodies. As a t-girl "on the bottom"- this changes in a hurry.
Since us gals don't have a "vagina", we tend to utilize "the next best thing" - our anus. I'll discuss in greater detail how to derive pleasure from this "organ" in the sections that follow. Here, we are discussing "cleanliness".
If you have plans for sexual fun in this department, I'd suggest the following regimen. First, before going out - give yourself an enema of soapy water to help cleanse this area. It's a healthy habit - and will make you feel more confident during "the big moment". Second, try to stick to a liquid diet of juices and water for the balance of your day. You'll get a tad bit "thinner & there's no need to add "fuel" to the fire...
Finally, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER allow anything "in there" that isn't covered by a condom!!!! Your insides are made up of fragile tissues - which can be easily torn and subsequently infected by a host of diseases. No matter how "womanly" you think it might feel to have some special person let loose in your innards - take it from real women - it ain't fun!!
In my opinion, masturbation is one of the most underrated forms of sexual intimacy amongst heterosexuals. Most gays I know - both male & female - use it extensively for sexual satisfaction. For some strange reason, it's never caught on as well amongst hetero lovers other than as a means of foreplay.
There are obviously two basic ways to enjoy this means of sexual gratification. One, is where you perform masturbation on your partner. The other, is where you touch yourself.
If you are going to masturbate your partner to orgasm, you'll discover that pretty much every -"body" tends to move their hand a tad bit differently from the next person. Although not required, your best bet is to use a hand lotion to provide a lubricant for your hands to slide most deliberately over the stalk of your lover . If a hand job is simply a warm up for deeper subjects, you'll want to use a lubricant that is also safe for your "insides". There are a variety of branded products for such activity - my personal favorite is "WET". I always warm the lotion in my hands before applying it to the penis. You'd be amazed how even minor temperature difference can chill the moment. *G*
As your lover begins to get more excited, you will likely notice the penis will start to emit its natural lubricant or "pre cum". This is natures way of helping lubricate the canal to the urethra so the semen can most easily swim to the womb - and it also acts as a lubricant. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft.
Unless you are certain the lubricant is warm and
Females, in general are not as adept at this skill as t-girls. I wonder why? LOL They tend to be much more apprehensive in handling a penis, lacking the type of grip and exuberance to achieve orgasm. They fail to apply adequate pressure, often tug and even scratch in manners that provide anything but pleasure.
First, take a look at the penis in front of you. Note it's shape and size - or flow. If you can grip it's width with a single hand, you task will be much easier as it is far easier to "squeeze" all at once. If not, use two hands.
Next - take your time. Men (as we know) are quite proud of their penises and appreciate it when another admires it. Do so. *S* Let your lover know you like it and are not ashamed, afraid, or disgusted by it in any manner.
Start in a slow deliberate motion, sliding your hand fully up and down the penis, and giving a tiny squeeze each time you reach the "head". Add more lotion to maintain the "smoothness" of your caress, as your partner begins to get excited. As with oral sex, the key to sending them over the edge is to focus your final friction on the "head" of the penis. Try to increase the pressure of your grip as orgasm nears and with the aid of the lotion, keep slowing tugging on the head in a circular manner. You're hand won't be empty for long. ::))
One of my favorite methods in this department is the fist over fist method - where you use both hands and alternate sliding first one and then the other from the base of the penis to the tip. In this manner, you can strike up a similar rhythm to the single handed method but with the added stimulation of a second palm. To add intensity, try occasionally moving one fist down - and the other up - stopping to squeeze when each reaches the end.
One of my favorite forms of sex is "mutual masturbation" - where each person touches themselves. Lying side-by-side or sitting face-to-face, this can be highly pleasurable. The free hand can explore your partner's anatomy, while your busy hand times release. Personally, I find pleasure is heightened with a little "dirty talk" and some hot kissing. This is certainly one of the only ways to achieve "cumming together" with t-sex.
the perfect blowjob
I personally can't stand the taste of semen. I have a weak stomach - and there is something about it that just doesn't sit well with my tummy. Some guys seem to get obsessed with having a girl "swallow". If you like it, drink up GF! However, if you're like me, here's a few ideas on making the "non consumption" process - more erotic.
First, remember that when a guy has just cum. Come on girls, you know what I'm talking about. You're not that damn feminine, sweetie! ::)) Play with the stuff.
Most guys are under the impression that since they have a male sex organ - they will automatically know what feels good to another individual with the same equipment. Problem is, they might know the feeling - but they often know "zilch" about how to deliver the goods.
During their first time with a t-girl, most guys are fixated with touching and tasting her penis. The unique combination of smooth skin, hairless scrotum, silky garments and the sex of a male is sometimes enough to make the whole event "pleasurable" for the guy.
It's nice that you can have so much fun doing so, but it often does little for her, after the first minute or so. Everyone likes to know they're desired, but when your focus is more of an obsession, it reduces the pleasure.
The million dollar question: Can you give a good blow job? Have you ever had a bad blow job? Not fun, was it? A lot of men don't really know the first thing about the make up of their "manhood" - and thus a great number of t-girls don't as well.
Let's talk about the art of giving a "great" blow job. First take a look at your own "friend". Notice the area where the "cone" of the penis head comes together? This is the most sensitive point on the male body - loaded with nerve endings. Collectively, the head of the penis has more nerve endings than any other area of the male body. Learning to manipulate them, will take you a long way in becoming an accomplished "cock sucker". ::))
One mistake many "newcomers" (no pun intended) make, is focusing on the "shaft" of a penis. As much as you might think "sucking up and down on the shaft" will cause an explosion in your lips, it's really just for show in the porno movies. Take a moment and touch your own penis through your pants. The excitement you'll note - is the slight amount of friction "your head" feels against the fabric - not the shaft. Your shaft has very few nerve endings.
One area than can be of additional benefit is the balls - but just be careful. We all know the wrong "move" can spoil a "mood" in a moment. LOL. Light caresses with the tips of your fingers is often the perfect "touch" to a good blow job.
When I start, I always prefer my lover is flaccid. A lot of guys don't like pulling out their penis when it's not erect, but I find this to be its sexiest state. It also provides me with my best opportunity to learn its individual; "hot spot's" - it's harder to tell such things when it's erect.
I usually like to start by admiring its features, weighing it in my lips, and using my tongue to find the most sensitive nerves. Watching and listening to your lover's sounds and movements, will tell you a great deal about how to get them off once things reach a fiery level.
When you think they are ready to come, focus, your suction in a rapid motion at the head of the penis - and keep fresh saliva pouring from your mouth to enhance the "speed". A big mistake a lot of newcomers make here, is sucking "too hard" early on - and getting very tired in the process. It's the "friction" at the head - not the deep throating or the "vacuum" - that will cause ejaculation.
One the cum starts flowing, it's time to turn on the "Eureka", "Hoover" - whatever brand of lungs you own. Nothing feels better at the moment of truth than a high suction finish.
spreading your wings
Anal eroticism can range from simply stroking your anus or your partners with a lubricated finger to actually sliding some fingers inside your partner, to full anal intercourse. All these things are physically pleasurable and if you practice simple hygiene techniques there's nothing repulsive about th.
The anal taboo is very old but there is no medical reason for it if you know what you are doing. Make sure you have gone to the bathroom before playing. Some people wish to use an enema to make sure everything stays neat, although this practice is relatively uncommon. In today's world, most couples use condoms during anal sex - regardless of their knowledge of each other's safety.
You should use plenty of water soluble lubrication when you try anal sex. Never use Vaseline or petroleum based lubrication products. I prefer both EASE and WET. Use LOTS of lubrication, it's clean. The more lube you use the more comfortable you will be.
Your rectum can receive a large penis easily and fully, and be pleasurable. The key to pleasure is you must want it. That is you must be at ease in mind and body. The rectum is very similar to an elastic pipe with a set of muscular rings at the end. The anus acts as a plug, to stop things from going out or let them in. It tightens and releases like purse strings on a bag and is fairly strong.
The muscle is controlled by the mind and emotions influence how tense it will be at any given time. Good fucking can't happen unless you are relaxed and this may take some learning. Many of us are taught to be ashamed of our rear ends, of the things that happen there and the sensations in the area.
The anus can be an erotic place. most children experience pleasure in shitting but many adults ignore these feelings in their rush to get the whole process and guilt over as quickly as possible. The rear end becomes an ignored and mysterious organ.
Awareness and conscious control of your anus can be learned, although this takes time to discover. Look at is as exploring something new part of your own body.
Anal sex can be as safe and enjoyable as any other form of sex - practiced properly. The anus can be an intensely erogenous zone. The anus contains more nerve endings than any other part of the body except for the clitoris.
Without care and proper preparation it can be painful and even dangerous. All too often anal sex is a one time experience. In a typical scenario, the couple attempts to try penetration with little preparation. The one with the anus being invaded with little warning screams in shock and agony and swears never to try it again.
You'll quickly ascertain why "rape" is a capital offense if you ever let a less than gentle lover climb on top of you. I'm no slut - but I've had sex more than once. On one occasion, I endured such a lover - and it literally brought tears to my eyes. I was young and stupid. If it happened today, I'd still have his balls mounted in my trophy cabinet.
A lot of girls "fantasize" about ending up on their knees or backs - getting screwed for hours like a GG. It's not unusual for a newer girls to imagine being tied up or controlled during this process.
Some girls consider a masculine male as the ultimate means of "feminine" intercourse, others prefer the idea of a GG with a "strap on", while most love the idea of another t-girl wearing out their backside. Whatever your idea of heaven is, you need to consider a few things before you part your thighs too wide.
First: You behind is NOT a vagina. It does not stretch anywhere near as easily, and losing your t-girl virginity can be a lot more physically painful than breaking a hymen. The entrance to your "love hole" is "protected" by muscles. Like any other muscle on your body, it can be torn - badly.
Most girls do not enjoy their first time being penetrated. They envision total pleasure - and experience absolute pain. The key to enjoying your first time has as much to do with what you do "before" you lose your virginity - than after.
First and foremost is being clear on your actual desires - versus your inner fantasies. I hate to keep harping on this issue but I've just seen too many friends get really screwed up emotionally from the experience (literally & figuratively).
Anal sex has a way of taking you places mentally you might do best to stay clear of. First off, a lot of girls considering this step are still searching for their own sense of sexuality
SEX vs SEXUALITY Discussion
If and when you move to sexual intercourse with another t-girl or a masculine male, you are crossing a bridge that might leave you feeling stranded in the middle of a long river of gay / vs bi /vs whatever.
If you are serious about being on the receiving end of anal sex, then hop on over to my dirty deed section upon wrapping up here for the details of how to make your first - and every time - more pleasurable.
it's all in the head
The size of a cock offers a variety of differences. If you are into anal sex, the size .
Physical versus mental lovers. The opposite in the GG/Male sexual relationship. Those that tend to be very physical versus mental in sex.
stand up and take it like a wo-man
Most people find it surprising that one of the "easiest" ways to accommodate a large lover is standing up.
First, stretch the muscles before hand. Just like loosening your legs up before running, you will need to stretch your behind to prepare it for any rigorous "activity" - and allow you to focus on the pleasure of your experience.
You can do this with your own fingers or some sort of artificial penis - I think you know what I'm talking about. Try to do this once every couple of days and reach a point where the initial pain from penetration is minimal.
Second, try to stay clear of a "John Holmes" types your first time out. You might find a very large penis intoxicating sexually, but the term "rip you a new ass hole" will take on a vibrant meaning if you make this sort of person your first lover.
The key to achieving pleasure from being the recipient of anal sex is "relaxation". If it's your first time with your "legs in the air", this might be a little tough. The excitement over finally getting "laid" is usually a little overwhelming. No muscle stretches easily while you're tense. You might find a stiff drink helps shakes off some of the stress.
Here's a helpful tip you can practice during your "stretching exercises": First try to step away from the intensity of the moment and take your mind to a "relaxing place" - or memory. As you feel your body going limp, take a deep breath and slowly - exhale fully. It is at this moment, with proper stretching, you can accept almost any sized lover. Don't be concerned you're not being a hot little vixen - you'll have plenty of time to enjoy your "little ride", as you get accustomed to the size and length of your lover.
Finally, get in the right state of mind. As I mentioned before, your anal muscles are controlled by your mind. The entrance stays shut because your mind tells it to do so. Opening this area is all in your head. There are two factors involved in letting go. The first has to do with your mental imagery of your ass. As adults, most of us are taught that it is a dirty place to be and we naturally tend to keep it clammed up. In reality, it is one of the most sexually sensitive loins on your body - second only to the female clitoris in terms of the number of nerve endings.
Second, the the method of cleaning for both health concerns and your own sense of confidence.
Third, is the physical aspect of stretching.
You can numb the pain with alcohol. Some people will even use "poppers" to get them past the first pain from penetration.
the ride of a lifetime
Okay, he's inside, now what? Hopefully your lover will take things slow enough for you to get used to his size and length. In case you, or he - is not aware - different "positions" can cause a lot of new found pain - as you get "stretched" in different ways - both inside and out. If not, remind him of this if you experience any such pain.
First thing to remember is your hole is situated lower than a vagina thus your legs will need to be higher in the air than your female counterpart.
Use every tool available for your pleasure and his. Most girls will not be able to orgasm from penetration alone.
As a final note, most people agree the best "position" for a first timer, is lying face down on their stomach - with a pillow under their hips. This position is usually the least "painless" to be penetrated. Once you have loosened up a bit, you can contort your body any which way you like. ::))
Cheerleading - Talk up a storm. I find I can get a lot of guys off (and sometimes myself) with just the words that flow from my lips during sex.
Let me begin by saying that anal sex is dangerous in a lot of ways. It's a very easy means to spread diseases. Some people assume it's just like vaginal sex. It is not: an anus is not a vagina. I know everybody knows that, but some people don't really "understand" it. "Exactly" how easy or difficult this process will be, depends on the size and length of your penis - and her prior experience with anal sex.
If you're a first timer in the role as a "top", I can only offer one bit of advice: be gentle. When you're with a GG, you usually have to wait until she is well lubricated, before you start gearing to knock the "bottom out of it". With a t-girl, it's a little more complicated.
The entrance to her "backside" is controlled by muscles. Just like the muscles in her legs, you must stretch them out, before any vigorous activity - or run the risk of tearing them horribly. Lubrication is important - but remaining calm and patient - is the best remedy for a girl who doesn't spend a great deal of time on her knees.
You first need to give her a moment to "clean herself" in the bathroom. Some girls prefer to stretch and lubricate themselves with their fingers, others enjoy their lovers to do this for them. Don't be afraid to ask.
When you first mount her, don't forget she might need to adjust her "equipment" to stay clear of your movements. I think you already know how "unsexy" a "smashed ball" feels. ::)) Take your time sliding inside her - and I mean SLOWLY. You may have to "stop and start" several times - in order for you both to get comfortable.
As she adjusts to your size and you are able to gain full penetration, don't get in a hurry to "pound away". Sometimes, her insides require getting used to your endowment, in order for her to most enjoy your thrusts. Some girls are not able to remain erect while receiving anal sex. Don't take this as a sign she is not enjoying you being inside her - it's an individual thing. You might encourage her to touch herself as you have intercourse.
As both of you get accustomed to the pleasure, you can "rearrange" your bodies as you see fit. If you want to cum from being inside her, I'd suggest you position her on her knees, with you behind her. This will allow for the most controlled pleasure on your part by grabbing her hips and gaining better leverage. Just take it easy initially. Unless she is lying on her belly, this position will cause you to feel "larger" in her behind, and may require a bit of getting used to.
Of course, after you've had your big moment - don't forget to return the "favor". ::)) Remember, she knows all about "blue balls". LOL
sugar & spice - and bitching is nice
Some people seek sex with a t-girl totally for the erotic nature of the situation. Many such people enjoy playing some sort of role playing games to heighten the intensity of the situation - including "games" of domination and submission.
T-girls, as a group, are probably more into "role playing" games than most. Many have already spent a lot of years - "imagining" themselves as women - so they tend to be fairly adept at being able to fantasize all sorts of situations.
I've enjoyed my fair share of "alternative sex". There was a time I defined myself as "Try-Sexual - I'd try almost anything once. *Grin* Now I'm forced to admit there is very little - I have not tried. ::))
One primary secret to success in this department is that all parties must feel safe and comfortable with their playmates. Neophytes in the domination category are easy to spot. They often run ads insisting others will be their "slave". Most such individuals pursue this vista to cover some personal feeling of inadequacy. They often feel that when another person is totally under their "control", they will be in a position to hide any shortcomings. This is not what D & S play is all about!
I can't profess to be an "expert" in this area - but I used to perform in a club with others who made it part of their daily lifestyles.
D & S is about "giving" up control - not taking it.
Nothing is more enjoyable than safely experiencing a long felt fantasy with the ideal lover. No experience is so horrifying as realizing you are at the mercy of a psychopath.
Neophytes in the dom category tend to imagine others as being Choose your playmates wisely!!
In case you are new to the games of ddomination and submission, this whole process has very little to do with pain or suffering but rather - power. The process of giving up control to another person can be a very intimate process.
I like it for a variety of reasons but I rarely partake. First, I just love the clothes and accessories inherent to the lifestyle. Second,
For the domme, the pleasure is achieved by
Likewise, the submissive (or bottom)
People who are really into this scene tend to have their own little pet peeves which are far beyond the scope of this summary.
The key to bliss is trust, period. Unfortunately, trust is one of those things you earn and garner over time so this is not an avenue I'd pursue early in any intimate relationship.
The whole situation starts off in a paradox that requires absolute trust for absolute pleasure. First, the only way you will really be able to enjoy this process both inwardly (and outwardly) is by giving up absolute control of what you will and won't do to another person. When you know this person cares for you, is watching out for your interests regardless of the intensity of what is going on around you, etc. you can reap a sense of total release that is rarely achieved xxx. HOWEVER,
In general, the best dominants started as sub missives. Why? One simply cannot learn how to dispense the unique balance between pleasure and pain, humiliation and xxx, without having been there first.
Sexual pleasure is perhaps the supreme gift God provided us meager humans. You should treat it as any "gift" - with appreciation. Early in my tranz-sexual explorations, I found I was a little too preoccupied with "being a good lover" - versus loving good. In other words, I discovered that being "good at sex" - is not the same as enjoying it. I'd suggest you not to repeat my "error".
If you've got a really wild fantasy - try dressing up your masturbation activities while alone to explore these ideas. It's quicker, safer - and a lot less messy. If you decide to add "another" to your explorations - do so - out of love and compassion for that person. It makes for the best sex you'll ever have!
Good Luck & ((hugs))
"T-Girl & Genetic Female Sex"
there's a little bit of lesbian in all of us
A lot of "newer" girls seem to have a hard time finding women who desire sex with them "while they are dressed". I "don't" have this problem - and I'll share my secret to success.
First, you must have a confidence in yourself as a woman. If you are tepid and shy about your "femininity" - few will ever find you "appealing" - regardless of their gender. Nothing is more alluring than a confident person. Of course, achieving this level of poise is a function of being happy with yourself. However - when it comes to sex - we all tend to be a little hard on our "self image". Try this: Before you go out, focus your mind on one attribute about your look or style that you know is excellent. It could be your nails, your new outfit, your hairdo, your smile, or your those great legs. Keep repeating how good this attribute is before you walk out the door - and repeat it any time you start to feel "nervous". Nothing succeeds - like success. If you can trick your mind into always believing "you are great" - your actions and assuredness will follow suit. *Smile*
Second - and more importantly - FORGET ABOUT "THE SEX"! One thing newer girls can't seem to relinquish is those "wild" inner desires and pent up sexual fantasies. When you couple this desire with frustration over not having been able to find a tg-loving partner - you've got the wrong seeds - for "growing" what you need.
The key to finding a satisfying female sexual partner is to not look for "it". I don't mean this in the typical male sense of maintaining "a hidden agenda". Rather, genuinely learn to make new female friends with no sexual leanings on your platter. Women recognize the much deeper emotions required for great sex. Learn to build off their proven model. Get to know and care for any potential lover. Focus on first becoming "friends". This is a really new concept to most males. Try to rely on that newfound female intuition buried in your transgendered soul - you'll learn a lot from "her".
In today's world, lots of women have been exposed to t-girls and many find us sexy. Most will usually assume you are gay at the onset. I rarely dispel this myth - until I'm certain the person I'm talking to is of interest to me sexually.
renee's thoughts for single women attracted to tg's
Many women who are " new to t-girls" posses a variety of misconceptions. First, they often assume " he is gay" - or will most certainly become that way. In reality, fewer than 20% of all transgendered males consider themselves "bisexual" - let alone homosexual. One's sexual "orientation" does not shift easily - if ever. Second, some women think that any man that "dresses" - hopes to eventually "become" a woman - through sexual reassignment surgery. In reality, only a small percentage of men "that dress" - are certified transsexuals - requiring altered gender identity. Most of us just have an alternative gender "self" - and seek a means to express it.
If you're a single woman with an interest in finding a transgendered male for sexual gratification - you're in luck. There are perhaps more "available" hetero tg's than any other "category". Your challenge is determining which ones are sexually orientated "which way". This is a fair question to ask from the onset of a conversation - and will not result in any anger - if your prospect is not sexually attracted to genetic females.
Women who tend to be happiest sexually with a transgendered male, usually come from one of two schools - or both. The first is a woman who maintains a strong sense of "individuality" - and appreciates this characteristic in the men she dates. She recognizes that she is "unique" - and likes those facets of her personality which set her apart from the herd. This female is truly one that has - and appreciates in others - a powerful sense of " self" - and independence. It is unlikely "this" type of woman will ever find a better match than a transgendered male. Why? Because so few men - with their monumental male egos - have ever gone through such a personal odyssey for the discovery of "self" - than a transgendered male.
The second type of woman who does well with a t-girl is one who harbors a sense of bisexuality - regardless if they've ever acted upon these desires. Such women get such a complete "2 for 1 bargain package" with a girl like us. Nothing like a "sale", to keep a smile on any face. *Smile*
If you "have" both a need for a man with a strong sense of self - and you sort of like the idea of having "sex with other women" - welcome to heaven!!
sex with your t-girl
All in all, I think t-girls make some of the best lovers for "real women" on the planet. The challenge tends to be in "allowing" them to sort out what is "fantasy" - versus reality. Many t-girls have a lot of years of pent up "sexual desires" - which are simply dying to reach the surface. This happens because most t-girls have not been able to explore their feminine side sexually - with genetic females. Most of these "ideas" - however - are not what they really want - or need.
Your t-girl lover is typically attracted to you on a lesbian basis while en femme. Translation: she views herself as "a woman" - and prefers the thought of that way as well. During intimacy, your tg lover will appreciate your attractions and comments to "her" as a woman. She will likely be every bit the "man" when it comes to sex, but her persona usually tends to be very female. Keep this in mind - and you'll have a much happier girl on your hands. If your gal is in her "teen" years - this will be a tad bit more frustrating early on - but it will improve. *S*
Also - on occasion - your "gal" might need to be the "woman" in the deal. This doesn't necessarily mean she wants you to strap on a dildo and ride her till she can't walk (although it's a good lesson to teach) - but can sometimes mean she wants to you to be the "aggressor" - and for you to take a lot of the traditional "male roles" in sex. This includes reminding her she "looks pretty" - and even indulging some of her fantasies, including - "how all the other girls and boys might desire her" or "how she needs to be taken hard", etc. You know: sexy chat - but in a mirror - where everything is "backwards". One idea I've seen used successfully in the fantasy department is to come up with your own little pet name for this "procedure". This eliminates confusion over "who is getting what" on tonight's sexual menu .
You will usually find you've inherited a better lover. Most tg's become more sensitive during sex as their fem persona evolves. "Wham, bam, thank 'ya mam" - goes totally against their grain.
Finally, one little complaint some genetic women have with a "smooth bodied" t-girl - is that she just isn't smooth enough. As nature begins to take its course in hair growth - things can get a little "sticky". A good set of pantyhose can really help out in this department - be creative! *Smile*
A t-girl who finds a sexually compatible female lover - is often one of the most "satisfied" people on the planet. And this high degree of "satisfaction" - usually ends up yielding a lover that will leave you gasping for air - when "she's" done with you. ::))
advice for the t-girl
Most heterosexual t-girls would simply "die" to have a genetic female in their lives who was accepting of their need to dress. The thought of finding one who would encourage such activity - probably seems mind boggling to many of you. In reality, it's not as hard to find as you think. We live in a world where alternative sexual expression is becoming a norm - versus an anomaly. And this norm - is not limited to men.
Of the the growing number of satisfied couples I've witnessed, I've seen one common problem crop up. Namely, the t-girl gets a little too wrapped up in being "her" - and sometimes forgets that their lady still needs "him". Unless you are with a lesbian - who would just assume see "him" leave forever - your lady will still need the presence of the man she fell for. I know you understand this need - because you likely have it sometimes as a woman. Don't forget to tell your female lover how gorgeous she is - and treat her like the awesome lady she is - each and every day of her life. Best of luck, sweetheart!
"T-Girl & Couples...Sex Discussion"
fun to the third power
On a pure sexual plane, a relationship between a couple and a t-girl tends to be one of the better combinations that exists. Why? For starters, the mathematics work well. There are just so many variations and combinations for pleasure. ::)) It takes some pretty bad chemistry for this union not to work - once the fireworks begin.
Naturally, such a union is first governed by the male's (in the couple) comfort of being sexually intimate with a "chick with an enlarged clit". However, I'll assume the reader is already past this uncertainty - and has dealt with any related insecurities.
thoughts for the couple
Getting to where everybody is comfortable is the biggest challenge. Most couples, who explore sex with a t-girl, have already tested boundaries with other sexual partners - single males, single females, and/or other couples. If you've explored some of these avenues, you already know many of the inherent problems that can occur with adding an "outsider" to your bedroom.
The key to success with "threesomes" (or moresome's) is for "the couple" - to in no way be threatened by the "advances" of a third party. This is easier said than done. There are several ways a "threat" can occur. First, is when a play partner contacts or shows attraction to a member of the couple outside the arranged time they are together. I think one basically calls this "making a move" on somebody. The other type of threat is less "direct", but no less impactful. It occurs when a member of "the couple" feels inadequate in some manner when compared physically to the "added" love partner.
It is on these notes that a t-girl often provides an extraordinary balance to the equation. Why? First, the male of the couple rarely feels any threat. This "guy-gal" is just way too "feminine" to challenge his role as the masculine leader of the "get together".
Doing anything that even hints of "masculinity" is usually the last thing on any t-girl's agenda. In fact, the only time the couple/tg situation tends to become troublesome is when the couple is seeking a t-girl to dominate or feminize the male. There are t-girls out there that enjoy this role, but you will have to search more diligently to find them one for a "non fee" relationship.
Likewise, the female of the couple rarely feels any sort of threat from a tranny. This "girl" just doesn't have the same necessities of a genetic woman. She is very feminine - and something different - but not a woman. Most GG's start with "more" on their worst day - than most t-girl's could ever hope to achieve on their best.
Private meetings between the tg and either member of a couple are usually of little concern. Any private rendezvous solicited by the tranny and the woman, is usually limited to the t-girl wanting to show off a new dress she's found - and her desire to get a second opinion on how the color looks with "her" skin tone. ::))
The obvious attraction of the couple to a t-girl is the allure of "something for everyone". I have developed some of my closest female associations with married women whom I've had a sexual relationship with her and her spouse. One, is without a doubt, my favorite shopping partner in all the world. One frustration many t-girls come to know is how difficult it is to develop friends who don't have a private sexual agenda in mind. Since everybody tends to feel very comfortable in their role in these relationships, typical barriers often vanish - allowing for a purer sense of friendship. Genetic women often love having the t-girl assist them in the selection and purchase of erotic attire and trimmings - as we tend to know this category inside and out. T-girls always relish picking up make-up and dressing tips from their female counterparts. Let a sexy TG and a GG spend a day shopping and sharing advice, and some lucky male is going to have the time of his millennium that evening. ::))
The only challenge for some women in this department, is when they fear their man might be more "bisexual" than they first thought. This fear can cause a great deal of frustration for the female, because she's now in a situation where her "plumbing" doesn't compete. My advice to wives in this situation is pretty simple. If your man has a desire to explore bisexual desires, I'd suggest you be there for the "event". I've seen men put themselves in some incredibly stupid situations while trying to satisfy the curiosity of their friend below their belts. He'll be much safer, you'll both have more fun, and the experience will bring you that much much closer - if you do this together! Real intimacy is not about sex - it's about the degree of sharing two people achieve. Nothing subdues this unique bond between men and women more than "secrets" - that are never shared.
For the tg, this relationship has obvious benefits as well. First, single males are often very unpredictable. The last thing any t-girl needs or wants is trouble, while she's out "en fem". I've known far too many girls that have suffered some form of physical abuse - and done everything possible to keep it quiet - so that nothing came out about their "dressing". Having a spouse present tends to keep any man on his best behavior. Second, for some tg's, not having a female present cuts closer to a gay relationship than some girls can deal with emotionally. Remember, over 80% of all t-girls would not classify themselves as "gay". Please don't ask me to explain why having a genetic female present makes any difference in how one feels about having a cock in their mouth, but for many - it does. Finally, couples as a rule, tend to practice more limited and safer sexual practices outside the marriage. Diseases are a reality in today's world. Any prospects that reduce the possibility of catching one, are of benefit to any girl.
As in all matters of the heart, honesty is the best policy in this arrangement. If you are cool with your feelings - and find the right girl - you can discover a lifetime of bliss with this unique union.
the right girl for you
Finding the right girl becomes far more important in this situation due to the inherently intimate nature of the sex. Compatibility is very important - you have a lot of personalities to mix. Additionally, a tg that is fairly "fem and attractive" tends to make the equation go much smoother than a "half-ass" cross dresser. Without it, it's more like two guys with a girl.
Your sexual desires will dictate a lot of the "features" you are looking for in a girl. If you're shy about describing what you seek, you can be in for a long process. This is particularly true if your needs are "unique". I think you'll find most tg's are fairly straight forward about what they will & won't do. If they are into couples - and they find you attractive - they will likely be all to eager to offer any information you need.
If you're interested in giving or receiving anal or oral sex and have never done so with a transgendered male, I'd suggest you read the other headings in this section. They include details which will make this experience more pleasurable.
A lot of couples who seek a tg playmate are motivated by the husbands desire to dress as well. Most tg's are all too happy to help in this department, but it can be important to define "sexual roles". Some girls just can't get excited about "screwing a guy with a hairy ass". You'll do best to bring up these matters early on, if it's important to your pleasure.
Happy hunting! ::))
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