First Meetings with a Potential Transsexual Partner
Your first “face to face” connection with a potential transgender partner or lover is often exciting.
Where do you meet and what do you do?
That depends if your date is a full-time or part-time gal. There are basically three core types of girls in the trans-lifestyle. Where and how you meet them for a date often depends upon which one of these girls we’re talking about. These include:
- The Full-Time Transsexual Woman
- The Experienced Part Time Transgender Gal
- The Part-Time Closeted Trans-Girl
The Full-Time Transsexual Female
If she’s full time?
She’ll be offended if you suggest meeting in some dark location or choose secluded seating. Unless she’s still rather new at living full-time as a woman, this - gal already lives and works successfully each day as a woman. Treating her like she’s something you want to keep hidden? That - won’t go over well.
Get Some Experience
The absolute worst thing you can do is be nervous because she’s transsexual. I’ll never forget a guy I once met for lunch to offer advice on his desire for meeting and dating trans-women. He was literally “shaking” from nervousness. Really??? I’ve been full-time for over a decade and function seamlessly as a woman in my career everyday - and you’re shaking from fear about meeting me for lunch? How was I supposed to feel about that? I was put-off.
If you’re going to be very nervous meeting a transsexual face-to-face, do yourself and her a favor and go get some experience being around transsexuals at nightclubs or through the use of a professional escort before dishonoring her with fear. You’ve got to be past the fact she’s trans - and get on to treating her like any other woman you find appealing.
An Experienced Part-Time Transgender Gal
If she’s a part-time girl but confident and experienced with public trans-expression? She’ll probably prefer a lunch or dinner date like anyone else. I know lots of gals in this category that while not full-time? Are more confident and passable than transsexuals who’ve already gone full-time. It just varies. In this instance, she may - or may not get read by the waiter and others seated adjacent. Regardless of her degree of stealth, stay fixated upon her and treat her with the utmost respect.
A Closeted Part-Time Transgender Gal
If her trans-expression is more closeted? She might prefer a trans-friendly environment or more privacy.
A few ideas in this instance?
Meet in a Dark Location Part time closeted trans-girls are like vampires - they hate bright light. Such illumination inherently exposes little (and large) flaws they spend hours trying to conceal. For both your benefit, humor her by meeting in a shadowy environment.
Take a Gift You never get a second chance - to make a first impression. A small token of your appreciation for her coming to meet you, always goes over very big, She likely just spent over $20.00 in supplies getting ready to see you. Do her the favor of bringing a flower, a bottle of wine, a bracelet - some minor token - to your first union. It will likely pay off in spades.
Don't Stand Her Up A lot of admirer's who are still wrestling with their sexuality, sometimes chicken out over meeting their first t-girl face to face. This is even more unfair than it would be to stand up a genetic woman - which is bad enough!! She will have to spend hours preparing to meet you. Don't blow it by getting nervous and not showing up. You are ruining it for yourself - and others. If you feel uneasy, simply arrange to get paged 30 minutes after meeting. If things look bad, you've got an excuse to scram! ::))
Additional chapters Included in this section on this subject, include:
Connecting with a TS at "straight" Venues
The Dreaded First Phone Call
Meeting at Transgender Friendly Nightclubs
First Meeting with a Potential TS Partner