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I Want to Marry a Shemale



How many times have I seen a guy lead with this sort of heading on trans-based dating / connection sites?

More times than I care to recall.

Shemale Wife


Of all the things you could include in a personal ad seeking a transsexual?

This - is the absolute worst!


Why’s that?


For starters, the term “shemale” was created by the pornographic industry - and for all intents and purposes
implies a transsexual prostitute. Thus, you’re immediately letting her know you understand nothing about who or what she is – as a person. Additionally, she knows the long journey some men go through coming to terms with their inherent attraction to transsexual women. She needs to know you sorted out this need with yourself, family & friends, etc. and you’re experienced enough to know what you like in a transgender-based loving relationship.
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Using the term “she male” - makes it clear you know nothing in these regards.


In other words?


Don’t include the term “shemale” in a discussion with a transgender woman:
ever!

Secondly - nobody gets "married" to just anyone with a particular anatomy. Can you imagine the lack of success you'd have posting: "I want to marry a female?"

Saying you want to marry a shemale makes it clear you know nothing about transsexual women and what you're getting into. You want even find a date - let alone a lover or wife. At best, you'll get an email from some overseas troll hoping to milk your wallet in exchange for occasional attention via video chat.


Chapters Included in this section, include:

I Want to Marry a Shemale
Transsexual Girlfriend Guide
Shemale Escorts
Finding Your Transsexual Girlfriend
Meeting a Transsexual Woman
Telling Others You Have a Transsexual Girlfriend



Telling Others You Have a Transsexual Girlfriend

This is perhaps the most challenging step for some with transgender sexual orientation. The good news? As never before, it’s not as big a deal as it once was - particularly if you wait until you formed a healthy and happy relationship with a transsexual woman that others can tell makes you happy.

This degree of acceptance is a new phenomenon and a result of increased awareness of transgender women. Ten years ago? It was looked upon as like a fetish.

Meet First

Nowadays?

It will surprise some people but most don’t freak-out. Most commonly they’ll comment: “That’s not what I was expecting but she seems nice and you appear happy:
good for you!

There are two core models for sharing I witnessed - depending upon your circumstances - both of which are successful.

The first is if you “accidentally” fell in love with a transgender woman. In other words? You didn’t know she was a transsexual when you first met her - but found yourself falling for her even more deeply after discovering and admiring her amazing life journey, spirit and beauty. If this was the case? You’re probably dating a quite attractive and very passable transsexual woman. That certainly makes things easier since we live in a world that responds to beauty. As Tim, a 37-year old accountant in Ohio said: “My friends were enamored by her from the onset. They saw us as very happy. Aside from my ex-wife who tried to use it as social leverage? Nobody cared”.
Transgender Love

If you actually sought out a transsexual woman for your partner then it's not really fair to her and yourself to hide behind “you didn’t know”. Its like don’t ask, don’t tell: it only skirts the issue.

Most of the men I interviewed on this subject agreed on three key issues. First, give them a chance to meet and know her
without telling them. Second, make it clear you’re very happy. Third, don’t make a huge deal out of it. The more intense you seem when you share? The more intense that information will be perceived.

When do you tell them?

That’s up to you. Some guys share such info even before they start dating - just very open communicators with friends and family. However, most wait until they’re actually dating a trans-woman and she’s interacting with the special people in your life. If she’s very passable? They usually wait to share this info until after others have met her. This approach often works best for both of you. As a transsexual woman, it’s exhausting first meeting others when “everybody knows”. It’s much healthier to first connect without preconceived notions or prejudice.

What if she doesn’t want others to know she’s transsexual?
Transsexual Love

If your girlfriend is almost completely stealth, she might prefer others not know she’s a transsexual. We get tired of being judged before we even first meet someone. Some girls prefer nobody know. However, given the webs easy access to anyone’s personal history - I suggest you both prepare for what you’ll do if her secret is revealed.

Other helpful tips and insights

Some of your friends will now perceive you as gay as uninformed people often view transsexuals as like - the gayest form of homosexuality. Don’t get drawn into that debate. In time, they’ll get it.

A healthy and happy relationship is your most powerful ally. If you’re happy and living a fulfilling existence? Few friends find a problem with that.

If you have problems with some friends or family? Give it time: it almost always passes. Once the surprise is gone and its no longer a page-one gossip subject but rather, old news? People tend to get past such issues.
TS Dating


First Meetings with a Potential Transsexual Partner

Your first “face to face” connection with a potential transgender partner or lover is often exciting.

Where do you meet and what do you do?

That depends if your date is a full-time or part-time gal. There are basically three core
types of girls in the trans-lifestyle. Where and how you meet them for a date often depends upon which one of these girls we’re talking about. These include:

  1. The Full-Time Transsexual Woman
  2. The Experienced Part Time Transgender Gal
  3. The Part-Time Closeted Trans-Girl


The Full-Time Transsexual Female

If she’s full time?
Transexual women

She’ll be offended if you suggest meeting in some dark location or choose secluded seating. Unless she’s still rather new at living full-time as a woman, this - gal already lives and works successfully each day as a woman. Treating her like she’s something you want to keep hidden? That - won’t go over well.

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The absolute worst thing you can do is be nervous because she’s transsexual. I’ll never forget a guy I once met for lunch to offer advice on his desire for meeting and dating trans-women. He was literally “shaking” from nervousness. Really??? I’ve been full-time for over a decade and function seamlessly as a woman in my career everyday - and you’re shaking from fear about meeting me for lunch? How was I supposed to feel about that? I was put-off.

If you’re going to be very nervous meeting a transsexual face-to-face, do yourself and her a favor and go get some experience being around transsexuals at nightclubs or through the use of a professional escort before dishonoring her with fear.
You’ve got to be past the fact she’s trans - and get on to treating her like any other woman you find appealing.


An Experienced Part-Time Transgender Gal

If she’s a part-time girl but confident and experienced with public trans-expression? She’ll probably prefer a lunch or dinner date like anyone else. I know lots of gals in this category that while not full-time? Are more confident and passable than transsexuals who’ve already gone full-time. It just varies. In this instance, she may - or may not get read by the waiter and others seated adjacent. Regardless of her degree of stealth, stay fixated upon her and treat her with the utmost respect.


A Closeted Part-Time Transgender Gal

If her trans-expression is more closeted? She might prefer a trans-friendly environment or more privacy.
Transgender Dating
A few ideas in this instance?

Meet in a Dark Location Part time closeted trans-girls are like vampires - they hate bright light. Such illumination inherently exposes little (and large) flaws they spend hours trying to conceal. For both your benefit, humor her by meeting in a shadowy environment.

Take a Gift You never get a second chance - to make a first impression. A small token of your appreciation for her coming to meet you, always goes over very big, She likely just spent over $20.00 in supplies getting ready to see you. Do her the favor of bringing a flower, a bottle of wine, a bracelet - some minor token - to your first union. It will likely pay off in spades.
Closeted Transgender

Don't Stand Her Up A lot of admirer's who are still wrestling with their sexuality, sometimes chicken out over meeting their first t-girl face to face. This is even more unfair than it would be to stand up a genetic woman - which is bad enough!! She will have to spend hours preparing to meet you. Don't blow it by getting nervous and not showing up. You are ruining it for yourself - and others. If you feel uneasy, simply arrange to get paged 30 minutes after meeting. If things look bad, you've got an excuse to scram! ::))

Additional chapters Included in this section on this subject, include:

Connecting with a TS at "straight" Venues
The Dreaded First Phone Call
Meeting at Transgender Friendly Nightclubs
First Meeting with a Potential TS Partner