The Four Big Challenges with On-Line Transsexual Dating
The most common challenges associated with connecting with transsexuals on-line include:
- She’s not into men
- She’s not as represented in her photos.
- She’s trying to sell you her sex site
- She’s a professional con artist
1. She’s not into men
Most of the transgender women active on-line are only part-time. Most part time trans-girls live as heterosexual males and are not into men - only women and sometimes other transgenders. She might appreciate a well contrived compliment but you’re not going to change her sexual orientation no matter how smooth your approach. In fact, hitting on such a gal with sexual intent is beyond annoying. How would you feel if some gay guy kept hitting on you at a straight dating site where you were trying to find female dates? To a heterosexual part-time trans-girl or full-time lesbian TS? That - is how they feel in response to your unwanted advances.
2. She’s doesn’t actually look like her on-line photos
There’s two issues you might face with trans-girls not looking much like they’re represented in their on-line presence.
Heavily Photoshopped Photos
Almost all women add a bit of “touch up” to a favorite photo - People Magazine is notorious for doing that with various celebrities. . However, transgender women sometimes turn this into an art form known as “glamorizing” a photograph. That’s fine - if the purpose of those efforts is to make them feel better about your transgender self image. However, if they’re included in a personal ad? It can cause problems. How do you know if a photo is heavily adjusted? Heavily doctored images have a softness in the face that makes them obvious. With others? Its harder to tell.
Fake / Stolen Photos of Other Women
Some people - mostly closeted cross dressers - will steal images of other trans-women and represent her as themselves. Ours is a rather small community: everybody usually has only one about degree of separation from another transgender woman. Look for comments in the photo from more experienced people who might recognize who she really is.
It's actually quite humorous, if you say this aloud: An impersonator - of a female impersonator. LOL. Well, I thought it was funny.
I've had numerous people write me after a conversation with such an impostor, or mention having chatted with me in places I've never even heard of - let alone visited. In the worst case? The girl of your dreams - doesn't even exist.
The other common challenge is when such an impostor uses pictures of a naturally-born female and passes her off as them and as being a transsexual. I’ve seen this with on-line friends - through Facebook, etc. There’s two things that usually bust such fakes. First off? If they’re stunning but only have a small number of facial pictures - and all their subsequent timeline photos are shown without a face? That’s a big problem. If they include more photos? Look closely and comparethem…sometimes they’re not even of the same woman.
Finally: look very closely for a female hip bone. This is the one feature a trans-woman can’t fake. We’re masters of creating female illusion. Personally, I’ve had hip & ass augmentation, breast implants, facial feminization - I even tan with a thong bikini to enhance the illusion of that female hip line. However, I can’t create that “bone”. If you see that hip bone? It’s not actually a transgender female. That’s a feature nature created to help women in child birth. No transsexual female has it.
Best ways to tell if a transsexual gal is “real”
Photos with Girlfriends
Unfortunately, the only sure-fire way to know is meet her ASAP in person. If you saw the movie “Catfish” you understand some people go to great lengths to develop an alternative persona. However, assuming you’re not dealing with such a complete deviant, Google her to find photos with her friends. Since it's socially unacceptable to “alter” a photo of yourself with other girlfriends - these are usually the truest representation of how she really looks.
If a beautiful transsexual woman immediately starts talking about her sexual desires and fantasies? You’ve most likely been Catfished - you probably have some guy with a hairy chest wearing silk panties on the other keyboard. Transsexual women rarely engage in erotic talk early-on.
3. She’s trying to sell you her sex site
Most transsexual women who run on-line webcam sites stay active on dating sites to help find new clients for their services. At trans-dating sites from Asia? Almost every girl has a webcam site she’s pitching. The good news if you take her offer? You’ll get a clear picture of how she really looks. The bad news: she’s probably only interested in your money.
4. She’s a professional con artist
Even worse is the professional con artist. Alas, they’re not exclusive to transgender dating sites. They pop up on straight sites as well, including Match.com, etc. They usually begin telling you about the recent death of a loved one, losing their home, their sick mother, etc. They’re trolling for sympathy and “donations” of help. Sadly, there’s lots of trans-women in such similar plights during transition. Thus, it can hard to determine which is which. Have to trust your instincts. A phone conversation helps. Most con artists avoid such communication.
Additional chapters Included in this section on this subject, include:
The Four Big Challenges with Finding a TS Girlfriend
Transsexual and Shemale Dating Websites
Transgender Chat Rooms
Writing a Good Letter to a Trans Woman
The Six Worst Things to Say to a TS