Seven Habits of Highly Successful Transsexual Admirer’s
What do guys do that are most successful with dating and loving transsexual women? I talked with a few of those men and discovered a handful of common traits, including:
Honesty - is a big word. Who’s the first person whom you must be honest? Yourself - of course! Are you just after sex? Would you like to form a long-term bond? If so, what degree of openness are you comfortable with in your world regarding friends, family & co-workers being aware you're dating a transsexual.
Knowing yourself and being honest with her about these circumstances is important.
Additional chapters Included in this section, include:
Transsexual Girlfriend: Picking a Match
TS Dating - How to Find the Best Match
TS Girlfriend Dating - The Ten Best Options
Transgender Dating - Common Mistakes
Tranny Dates - How to Succeed
Shemale Love: What's Most Important?
TS Dating: Answers to Common Questions
Be Realistic with Your Needs & Wants
Most transsexual admirers are first drawn to this lifestyle after viewing some form of tranny porn - stunning "Chicks with Dicks" mixing it up with a guy - or whoever else was on that film.
The performers in that erotica are also known as either pre-op or non-op transsexuals - and most are using sexual supplements to achieve what you see.
Anyone who is pre-op - by definition - is planning to eventually complete GRS.
You’ve got to be realistic.
Learn About Mars
What's the worst remark you can make when starting out? Saying: “I want to marry a transsexual”.
That's the same as saying I want to marry a Martian - but I've never been to Mars. Unless you're shopping a mail order bride catalog - you're 'gonna sound like an idiot.
You don't yet know the indigenous language, local customs, unique challenges and all the gifts of us transsexual “Martians".
We TS Martians prefer to bond with guys that have actually been to Mars, learned the terrain - and know they like it there.
Stay in Your League
Without a doubt the best relationships occur between people who are living the same level of openness in their transgender lifestyle. If your married? Consider a part-time trans-gal.
I know - many of you want to find a stunning, passable transsexual woman with breast implants and buttocks augmentation plus a functional penis to love you. Do you know how rare that girl is - that’s also attracted to men? She’s very rare! You can rent a version - but on a constant basis - it won’t be cheap.
Two of the most happy and successful long term trans-love relationships I’ve ever seen were both between a married, part-time trans-girl and a married guy that adored transgender women.
A part time gal won’t have breast augmentation or the smoothest face but she will often share your need for discretion and if married: is as worried about contracting a STD as you are! Also, lots of part-time gals look very lovely!
Both these love-success examples are over ten years old - and still going strong. They can be that good!
The happiest guys embrace most everything won’t be perfect - but that the relationship can be.
Follow Through As Promised
Trans-women with experience in dating are aware they often don’t get the straight story from guys at the onset. Lots of guys lie: we’re used to that - we’re looking for it.
Thus, anything you do that confirms "nothing is as it seems" - will often mark the end of your association with that particular gal.
Try Talking About Her
Most men adore talking about themselves. While our straight counterparts will sometimes let you get away with that? We’re often less patient.
The most successful guys ask lots of personal interest questions and listen intently.
Save “the Story” for Later
I know you're probably dying to discuss your history and interest in transgender women. You might have felt so different for many years - and you’re finally with someone who understands.
However, all those stories are usually about the same. Save it - until you know her better. Early on? It implies this is all just a fetish to you.
Don't Bring up the Sex Before She Does
Transsexual women know most men are just looking for an exotic encounter. Unfortunately, we are usually seeking more than that.
The trick to sexually scoring with women? Be aggressive in your desire to have her but never physically touch or discuss a subject before she does. And never “lead the way” on such a subject.
In other words?
If she somehow mentioned she likes oral sex? Just respond: “me too - love it”. Don’t subsequently go on a triage regarding your ideas about doing that with her. Likewise, if she physically moves closer to your body? Lightly embrace her: don’t grope.
Never take a step further than she does until they’re no steps left to worry about.