Ranking Priorities for Your Transsexual Girlfriend
We created our list of “perfect” features in the last section and learned why it's unlikely we’ll find all these attributes in one singular transsexual woman. Thus,we need to determine what’s negotiable and what’s not - when it comes to finding your best match.
Let’s discuss those components more fully:
A beautiful transsexual woman
Let’s face it: everybody adores beauty. Most drop-dead women…trans or otherwise - either select partners equally attractive or who have financial resources they feel their looks deserve. Do you fit in either of these categories? If not? Perhaps we should settle for “attractive”.
A completely passable transsexual woman
Mot guys want a “completely passable” TS woman because they don’t want anyone to know she’s actually transgender. That’s an unrealistic expectation and puts a lot of pressure on your transsexual partner. Completely passing takes years of practice and skills to develop. Also? If you live in a larger metropolitan area? People will almost always figure it out - if they’re around her often. In such cities everyone is much more trans-aware. In smaller communities? Stealth is much more likely. People rarely stop to consider a woman might be transgender.
Asking her to be completely stealth also requires she disconnect from lots of friends and trans-gatherings. Again, that’s not always fair.
I would advise that you be fair and realistic with this criteria.
Yep, no way around this one. If she’s not available? Can’t date her.
A transsexual woman
Most guys wanting a transgender partner want a TS woman - a gal who lives 24/7 and identifies completely as female. The paradox of that choice? Most of those same TS women intend to eventually get GRS whereas almost no cross dresser or DRAG Queen has dreams or plans in that regard.
A fully functional penis
Again, we’re facing a trade off. The longer a gal’s been or hormones and testosterone blockers - the more lovely she usually looks and acts - due to practice, experience, surgeries, etc.
However, all those years of HRT means her penis is far less functional.
No plans to change her genital configuration
Getting GRS is a very personal decision based upon a lifelong battle with gender identity. Also, as I discussed previously, not completing GRS puts you in a gray-zone from a legal and health-care standpoint that adds lots of undo drama to your life. Also, can you imagine the fear she faces if she were ever arrested and incarcerated? Ugh!
Attracted to men
The majority of transsexual women are attracted to women and other transsexuals. You’re not going to be able to change her sexual orientation any more easily than she could convince you to start dating gay men.
As I mentioned, drugs are rampant with some trans girls. In this instance? You need to define what’s acceptable: zero tolerance? Weed? Etc.
I know of several exceptional transsexual women who are HIV dormant: meaning - they contracted the virus but its now dormant and they can’t give it to a partner.
You need to decide which of the wide variety of medical circumstances you might encounter would be acceptable.
Every guy loves breasts. Honestly, we girls love getting them, as well. However, they’re expensive and mean we must be full-time before adding them. You must decide: are smaller hormone-induced breasts good enough? Is a slender girl without augmentation okay?
Long, beautiful hair that’s all her own
Lots of guys want this feature but rarely find it. Very few trans women’s hair is completely their own - even less so as they age.
I would settle for what I could get in this department. Hugs!
Not looking to get paid for visiting with you
As I previously discussed, I’m a big fan of guys starting their journey with transgender escorts since I find it subsequently reduces their anxiety with meeting a TS woman and they find out if this sort of sexual connection was really as fulfilling as they first fantasized.
However, most guys don’t want to pay for love from their long-term girlfriend.
Relatively drama free.
As I shared, a gender transition is usually devastating on a gal’s life. Thus, some degree of drama is only natural. You’ll need to envision what sort of boundaries are acceptable. Some men are natural nurturers and caretakers. Thus, a gal whose sometime reduced to tears and in need of a strong shoulder is fulfilling to them. To other men? They can’t handle such emotional outbursts.
Rank Your List
Okay - those are your dream-girl components to consider. You might also want to compare what you bring to this potential union in comparison to other guys she might date: we don’t live in a vacuum.
We’ll look at ten case studies of guys I know who modified their expectations and found happiness and love in trans-world.
Additional chapters Included in this section, include:
Transsexual Girlfriend: Picking a Match
TS Dating - How to Find the Best Match
TS Girlfriend Dating - The Ten Best Options
Transgender Dating - Common Mistakes
Tranny Dates - How to Succeed
Shemale Love: What's Most Important?
TS Dating: Answers to Common Questions