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Enjoy crossdressing as a for the special sensation it adds?

Tips to make it even better



Tips for Beginning Secret Fetish Crossdressers


Most men that crossdress will never leave the house dressed as a girl. In fact, most will never tell
anyone about their turn-on associated with privately wearing women’s clothes.
Early Days Fantasy

It’s my guess that about 30% of all men have some sort of erotic fixation with women’s lingerie & trim - if for no other reason? It acutely reminds them of their female lover.

In other words?

It’s
normal.

Additional related chapters Included in this section Include:

How to Crossdress
Crossdressing
Tips for Beginning Fetish Crossdressers
Crossdressing Tips - Beginners
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Crossdressing
Wig Selection, Care and Tips
Crossdressing Shopping and Fashion Guide
Tips for Taking Great Photos as a Crossdresser
Learning to Live Happily as a Part Time Trans-Woman
Tips for Wives and Girlfriends of Crossdressers
Sex and the Transgender Girl


Crossdressing Fetish

Imagine if today’s woman was never allowed to don pants or jeans. Think they wouldn’t face a similar desire to express another part of themselves?

The most important goal for a private, fetish cross dresser is to rid yourself of any personal shame associated with your fun. Let’s face it: everybody has some twist when it comes to turn-on’s: some guys love feet, others relish hanky-spanky…whatever! The point is if you enjoy it and you’re not hurting anyone? Why should you feel bad about finding pleasure?
Shemale Trap

You’re right. You shouldn’t.

Make no mistake - this is the most important lesson I can give you. Your desire to crossdress is not something to be ashamed of - its something to embrace and incorporate into a healthy dynamic in your life. I can still recall all the shame I once harbored every time I dressed and after I "released" - know what I'm talking about? The burning desire, the build up, the fun - the shame. Such a horrid cycle - completely wrong.
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In time - you'll come to let go of the latter aspect - and just enjoy this amazing part of your life!


Keep your forward progress going “forward”
Fetish Crossdressing

One of the biggest problems for private, fetish cross dressers is they often construct a female fantasy life much further ahead than their actual female self.

How’s that?

They’ll sometimes post intense fantasy hook-up date desires on Craigslist, etc. or “borrow” photos of another transgender gal for use in dating sites or chat groups.

My advice?

Steer clear of these bad habits. It ends up putting you into potentially unhealthy situations and makes you feel even more isolated.
Fetish Crossdresser

Do yourself a big favor: schedule a professional transformation makeover and start finding out how pretty you could look - inside and out on your own. You don’t have to go out in public - just explore your possibilities! Most men can’t imagine they could ever look presentable as women when they’re in fantasy mode.

Don’t feel alone or be anxious. Every lovely trans-girl was once very afraid to express her need. Likewise, many of us leaned towards some pretty edgy fantasies in our dreams.

Transformation is a skill set - it can be learned. Don’t stay isolated…grow!
Fetish Crossdresser

Unique for You

I created a
separate section regarding tips for fetish cross dressers since the design and imagery of such fashions are often substantially different than a cross dresser would wear out in public with hopes of “passing” as a woman.


Feminization Tips for Part Time Transgender Girls

Compared to having breasts - you might think no other femme feature is important. 

I'd almost agree with you. *Smile*

However, I think you'll discover far more feminine looks you can achieve in other parts of your body. These other details are the real difference between the weekend crossdresser - and the knock out Queens.

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Additional Chapters in This Section Include:

Crossdressing Transformation Introduction
Crossdressing Exercise Tips
Crossdresser Diet Tips
Crossdresser Make Up Tips
Transgender Arm Size Reduction
Feminization Tips for Crossdressers
Learn to Walk Like a Lady

Full Body Stocking for Hairy Body Cross Dressing

If you want to create more feminine photos but can’t shave the hair from your body some girls use a fully body stocking to create an effect suitable for photos.

Full Body Stocking


Choosing your new female crossing dressed “name”
Lots of new trans-gals create an acronym of their male name to produce a new femme identification.

The only problem with this method?

This hybrid moniker is often spelled differently than comparable female names - which can make it difficult for others to pronounce. As your new life grows you’ll want to spend more time in public. Guess what the hardest aspect of passing in public is for part-time gals? Their voice”. Thus, if you have a name that must be repeated for people to understand or spelled out? You’re hitting your weakest link
just as people first meet you - and getting read quickly. That’s no fun.

My advice?

Pick something short, sweet and simple that’s definitely female. Names like Kate, Tina, and Susan? They’re perfect!

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MTF developing a feminine voice - it's all - in your head...

Trying to develop a feminine voice?

For some guys - this is a cinch. For others - including me - it's a nightmare. For those of us with male voices best suited for FM radio - they key to success is talking from the head. 

What do I mean by that? Try this...hold your right hand over the center of your chest and talk. Do you feel that vibration in your chest? That's your deep male voice. Now - try raising the point of that vibration a few inches higher. You accomplish this by speaking from the head - versus the chest. With practice - you'll find her - without that typical falsetto voice of some girls.
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When I'm heading out to an environment where voice is important - I listen to music by one of my favorite female vocalists - and start singing along with her. As I find my fem inflection, I stop the music and start speaking in that tone. Then I turn the music back on - and try it again. Works for me!

Included is a link to a TS gal with a whole program on improving your fem voice. 

Andrea James Guide on Developing a Femme Voice

In general, you'll find most feminine voices have a degree of musical melody to them. They rise and fall differently from most males. Take note of these variations. Practice the most common phrases you will use.

Regardless how masculine your voice sounds, you will do a lot better if you will work on your femme vocabulary.

"What's up bud?", needs a slight little alteration to:

"Hi sweetie, how are you?"

Nails & Toes for Cross Dressing
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Perhaps nothing will enhance you fem appearance as easily as painting your nails and toes. Start your fem nail development by getting a basic male manicure and pedicure if you can. You will discover that pushing back the cuticle will be of great benefit in helping to reduce smearing as you paint.

Personally, I try to keep my nails right in between male & female. How? I use a nail file every three or four days and shape them to a slightly pointed basis (trim the sides & corners) - while keeping the length to a non-noticeable level. They don't look feminine without polish - but add the paint, and they appear to "grow" in length. Try finding a length you won't get comments with. Also, don't be afraid to test a variety of nail polish colors. We all tend to naturally gravitate to red - but you'll find it fun to mix up your palette now and then.

I use the quick dry nail polish, because I rarely have time to go through the waiting period for traditional formulas to dry. However, I often add a light coat of clear sealant enamel, because the quick dry colors tend to wear-off very easily.

Once you get the hang of working with nail polish remover, you can get the color off in minutes. Don't buy any of the fancy versions of polish remover. Acetone is acetone - is acetone! Have to be honest, getting nail tips put on by a pro is unbeatable. I've never been able to do it right myself. 


Nails are decidedly my weakest link. In case you haven't noticed from most of my photos, I rarely even paint them anymore - let alone color them. Why? The usual female reason - I'm always running late when I'm headed out. Since I take my pictures upon returning home - I'm not about to add them then.

I wore the press on version. They really do look good. However, make certain everything is done before you apply them. And I do mean everything.

I wore them when I visited my dear friend Lady Ashely in Philly - as she always gave me grief about not having them in my pictures. Never a good time to give another queen ammo to trash you. 

However: nail tips don't come off easily! The first time I had them done I got myself in a real mess, because I couldn't totally remove them. I had to go into a meeting hiding my hands until I could leave and have the remnants removed. That experience was one for my diary.

Don't forget your toes! Painting your toes is so very easy, and you can leave them painted as long as you are not going to have to remove your socks in front of someone who wouldn't understand. Painted toes add such a perfect touch to your illusion. And everything, which adds to your image of femininity is in my opinion - a plus. They don't show if you wear pumps, which is another reason (along with comfort) I prefer open-toed shoes. I pretty much always go with red in this department as it covers so well as my nails are not in the best of condition. Again, cover your base coat with a coat of clear sealer and you'll enjoy the glow for a very long time.

Body Hair and Cross Dressing

I realize a lot of you are not in a position to shave your legs and arms. According to a TG girlfriend of mine (Cindy), there are several ways around this little problem. The easiest and most common method to mask hair, is to wear suntan pantyhose under all your items as a color base. Two or three pair will hide even the hairiest of legs. Several firms sell complete body stockings which will cover ya from head to toe for this little problem. Also, a set of opera gloves will do wonders for dark, hairy arms. If you are able, you can shave the tops of your thighs to a point where you can look good in stockings and garters, and still show hairy legs in shorts.

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For less intimate attire, the process is much easier to deal with. Long sleeve blouses, dresses, etc. will hide the thickest forest. Just remember, this much layering can change your size a bit - so if that skirt was a little tight to start - it may need an alteration now. Also, it's a bit warm - dress accordingly.

Another option is long sleeved Lycra outfits. These garments offer the dual effect of covering the hair on your arms, and slimming your biceps - all in one fell swoop. Try to buy them as slim fitting as possible, without being so tight to make you look overweight.

Hip Padding for Cross Dressing



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Certainly one of the most distinguishing female features of genetic females is wide hips - and a curvy behind. Unless you are just very lucky - this will usually not be your strong suit.

If you have narrow hips (as most of us non-hormone girls do), there are a number of things you can try to present a more feminine figure.

This is certainly one of the easier problems to solve. There are numerous enhancers available for this area of your body. The best ones really look good. I bought a $40.00 version from Frederick's several years ago, but wore it only with loose skirts and jeans - because the padding was so unevenly distributed.

One night while out clubbing, I met up with an old girlfriend from Key West who is a rather famous tg. She has been featured on HBO a couple of times - and is absolutely stunning. One of her most impressive features is her hips and behind. Her form allows her to wear the tightest skirts and pants - and put any woman to shame. The truth is: it's not her form - but her enhancer.

If I were going to invest in just one enhancement product, hips would be it. It's quite easy to create breasts - tape, coloring, exercise, wonderbras - the list of options is almost endless. Hips and behinds are as easy not so easily improved. You can wear multiple sets of pantyhose, but this did little but add bulk on me.

Also, since our legs are typically the best feature we have, why not add to the allure where the eyes go first anyway. Building off your strengths - has always been my mantra.

A couple of tips on getting an enhancer: First, stay away from the voluptuous versions unless you've got the body to match it. I did this initially, and it looked silly. Second, when wearing your enhancer - pull it down a bit. We tend to be long waisted and women's curves start lower than ours. Use the mirror to guide you.

 A nice set of hip enhancers will look great on you. It will also slim the appearance of your waist by expanding the hips. I've included a link where I got mine. They offer a custom fitted unit. One thing I like about them is you can send your unit back for modification for a reasonable charge. That beats the heck out of most custom things I buy that don't work - and I get stuck with them.

Classic Curves - For Top of the Line Hip Enhancers

I've reached a point where I rarely wear such devices since my outfits are usually a little short on material. To alleviate this problem, I first focused on posture. It's actually not that difficult to learn to stand and walk with your behind poking out a bit. Standing should include bending to the side. Finally, most of my short skirts are 100% cotton, which possesses enough support to automatically cause a flared appearance of the hips.

Tucking for Crossdressers
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If you are going to the beach at some point, one skill you might find helpful to develop is tucking. Tucking is basically the process of hiding your male genitalia from view.

In case you haven't noticed from my photo's, I don't typically give a flying crap about tucking. I'm a t-girl - and quite proud of it. Typically, you can just adjust your inventory and stand in such a way that nothing ever shows. However, if you wish to hide your masculinity in a tight fitting bathing suit, this is often your best option.
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There are two basic options to resolve this problem. The first is to carefully, slide each of your testicles up into the scrotum area above your sac, and subsequently tape them in place. I do one testicle at a time. Mine are a little large, and I can't seem to hold it all together as I prepare to tape. ::)) Some new girls get frightened by this process for fear their jewels will somehow get lost. Trust me honey - they are nicely attached and will find there way home. Finally, take your friend and tuck him nice and neatly between your legs. Some girls suggest taping him as well but they never mention what you are supposed to do when you must pee. I leave mine alone. Usually, a pair of snug panties or a bathing suit will hold your little operation in place. 

Instructions on Tucking 


Crossdressing Secret Weapon: Tan Lines
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There is nothing I enjoy more than fem tan lines - and they are so very easy to achieve and maintain. I start off by visiting a tanning bed to get the basic lines I'm looking for. I take a pair of string-sided panties in my pocket, and put them on in the privacy of my booth after I've applied my lotion. Incidentally, I use the same panties each time I tan so I can keep the lines the same and intensify the contrast over time. Just don't forget to wash them now and again.

Another trick is to adjust the rear of your panties inward, so the outer edges of your buns get tan. This causes your hips to appear wider than they actually are. I'm not in a position to tan in a high-waisted swim suit, because I still must go the beach as a guy in the summer. By using panties, I keep the tan line below the belt. If you'll pull your panties up above your tan lines as you wear them, it shows off your lines in a sexy manner.

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 Your second tanning option is to wear a string bikini top and create the illusion that you have breasts. I do this in the winter when I know I won't face concerns about removing my shirt in front of others. It provides a fairly convincing look, which you can accentuate with a coating of light colored foundation make up before going out en fem. Being able to do this, is a matter of if you're personal lifestyle will afford you this option.

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Tanning beds are pretty hard on your skin. Whatever you do - do not tan your face! You will be wearing so much make up, it won't matter. Your face already gets too much sun exposure just from being outside. Most of the better beds have a button you can shut off the rays to your face - use it!

I only use the non-burning beds - and go as few times as possible. I support this base with light applications of self-tanning milk. I reiterate light, because if you use too much of the stuff - it will come off on everything you own.

Once you get your basic lines, a once a month trip to the bed and weekly application of lotion will keep it looking good.

Crossdressing Feminization


Can we still look like women when we're down to nothing?

If your lifestyle will afford you the option, the final leg of your fem development is often looking female without the help of much else. Now I'm not referring to you sisters that have hormonally enhanced hips and silicone filled breasts. I'm talking to gals like me that fight the grind of rapid hair growth, with hips narrower than your shoulders and not much fem elsewhere.

I played with this a great deal as my narrow hips put a limit on how womanly I was going to look in my birthday suit. I really didn't take these steps for anyone else. I did it for Renee. Not being able to dress that often can get me grumpy. Looking more fem in the shower each morning keeps a smile on my face between sessions.
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First, I keep my toes painted all the time. Second, I tan once a week with a woman's bathing suit on. Initially, I was reluctant to use feminine bottoms versus panties due to the fact the tan lines come up so high. However, other than low level hip huggers, you'll never see it. Of course, the tan lines around my breasts mean my shirt simply doesn't come off but that's not as challenging as you might first think. Ever seen a woman take her shirt off around friends? Not a common occurrence is it?


Your Evolution as a Transgender Woman
Trans-Darwinism
Where am I?

Most t-girls go through between one and four stages of evolution in their quest towards feminine expression. Many girls achieve a perfect sense of male / female balance after only one stage - lucky them! However, a lot of us are forced to endure a much longer process as we search and discover how important expressing our female side is to our daily happiness - and how far we need to go in doing so.
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Additional Chapters in This Section Include:

Understanding Transgenderism
Do You Already Know a Crossdresser?
What's Up with all these different labels?
Important Terminology in the Transgender Community
Additional Slangs and Terminology
Problems Associated with Transgender Labels
Transgender Happiness
Telling Your Friends You're Transgender
Crossdressing in Public
Making Transgender Friends
Your Evolution as a Transgender Lady
Finding Happiness in a Dress

The ugly part of evolution is that each new stage tends to bring about new priorities - and conditions. This is hard enough on us t-girls - but just imagine what it does to those close to us. We get them accepting one person - and then bang - we begin changing into another. It's sort of like female menopause - only it often happens more than once with us. How bout them apples? LOL

We need our loved ones to understand us. Healthy relationships with those people close to us are as important as the air we breath. By getting a handle on where we are in this evolutionary process, we can better manage the specific challenges associated with our current stage.

There are two important points to remember before studying trans-evolution. First, this process is different for the certified transsexual - those girls who have absolutely no connection to their male body other than having to transform it to female. My analysis refers to the 80%+ of us who have a strong connection with our femininity and seek ways to express it. 

Second, there is no one level higher on the evolutionary ladder than the other. I repeat: No one is better than the other. The only difference between a t-girl that reaches womanhood and the gal forever in infancy is simply a matter of personal happiness - not any form of superiority.
The goal is not really womanhood - but rather - balance!! In fact, I'm of the opinion that girls who can maintain balance & bliss by simply donning pantyhose on occasion - are perhaps the most gifted of all t-girls. Unfortunately, Renee is not a member of this elite group. 

If you are just beginning to deal with your transgenderism, I'd suggest you pray to whatever deity you feel might be looking out for 'ya - that you require no multi-phased evolution. It sucks!! LOL  

    Eventually finds balance by simply enjoying this little fetish for what it is - a source of release, relaxation - and pleasure.

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      People who find balance at this stage are often the happiest t-girls I've ever met. Personally, I feel society's norms regarding those who go further with dressing - are the reason why gals in next phase tend to be less happy than this group. 

        This is a wonderful period of discovery in new sensations and female  experiences. It is also quite dangerous! Teen desires are typically not ideal in adult environments. Many married gals get stuck in this stage due to familial constraints. Subsequently, some make less than optimal decisions in moving forward - including leaving a good marriage for all the wrong reasons.

          Why? It's not so much because of the challenges she has mastered, but rather - her ability to master challenges. Her happiness comes from enjoying the wonderful blend of her femininity in all facets of her life. 

          Did you find yourself in any of these phases? What I find most interesting when I look at this sort of evolutionary table is just how young a woman Renee really is - regardless of how old her knees are. *G*   

          Be careful what you wish for

          In retrospective, I've begun to realize Renee has evolved a lot like any other woman. I started off focusing pretty much on just looking and acting like a woman (i.e. being able to pass as a female). This was similar to how a young female teenager evolves. 
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          I assure you this was a tougher task than my current photos might indicate. I have never been one to look feminine en drab - I'm typically one of the last people that can be guessed out of DRAG. My chest and body hair require a bush hog to even phase removal. My waist line & chin(s) looked a bit different at the onset. My always large calves seemed as unfeminine as a mustache. Suddenly, through slow and steady effort - I saw a pretty hot little female peeking from my loins. Trouble was, I really had no worthwhile plans for her beyond that.

          In trying to figure out how to grow beyond my teen years, I began to seriously evaluate what motivated me to improve in my dressing and appearance. I came up with a list of needs which most growing gals face once they get beyond the basics of being able to pass as a woman. I'll be the first to admit this is a work in progress - as is Renee. I'm still sorting out what is important, what is the highest priority, etc. - and a lot remains a moving target. 

          I suppose my desires and goals are actually dynamic. As other areas of my life evolve - priorities shift in matters well outside of Renee's control. Whatever the reasons, I'm searching hard for steady ground. ::)) 

          Remember folks - I'm baring my soul a bit here - so no wise cracks from the peanut gallery. 

          Renee's Needs ( In no particular priority )

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              Renee's Don't Needs

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                  The horror of loneliness

                  You will enjoy so many new and wonderful experiences as your transgenderism begins pervading your life. However, as your evolution occurs, you will experience some of the most intense loneliness your soul has ever come to know. You can visit a lot of my sister's home pages and get a glimpse in more graphic detail of the pain that can be associated with being T. You don't see much of that here - but girlfriend - I have those days as well. In general I try to remain very happy - only because I detest the alternative.

                  I've found my intense periods of loneliness have been derived from a narrow group of sources. First, is financial. Nothing will take the starch out of your skirt quite like being broke! Second, is a recovery period from an extreme experience. Doing something that pushes a new boundary is usually stupid - and I tend to regret it for some time. Regret breeds loneliness. 

                  Finally, are those periods when I have too few relationships to rest my weary head upon. Because of the problems associated with sharing our gender issues with others, most of us allow few people into our inner circle. This short list can result in some pretty empty feelings  - sort of like we are living one big lie called life.

                  Life is so very fragile - and challenging enough without gender issues. Sustained happiness tends to occur when your seesaw is parallel to mother earth. The sensation of bending your life board downward will be so very tempting at times. However, the slow and meticulous process of getting back to even ground will act as a reminder of the dangers of extremism. 

                  In general, many people who show an interest in your well being will have less than optimal motivations. T-girls - as a rule - have few really good friends. Finding other t-girls with your same experiences, your current status in evolution, your age, your intellect, etc. - is quite challenging. Many friends, no matter how they might try otherwise - will have a deeper sexual agenda than your soul needs from friends. 

                  You might feel compelled to tell more people. I think you should be careful in getting on your high horse in this matter. There is really not a good reason for many people to know. I never told my father (he died in 1988) and I only told my mother in 1999. I waited until the impact on her views regarding me would be lessened - for her benefit. 

                  You will have close friends whom your t--bond will become special. In some instances, you will lean on the foundation of their friendship when your heels are worn and your soul is tired. Because of the challenges in their own lives and the needs of others that depend upon them - they will sometimes pull their shoulder away from your head - just when you need it most.

                  Loneliness is a real cost of being unique. Let's move on...I'm getting depressed! ::))

                  Love thy self


                  Ren-A

                  To find happiness in the middle, I've really found there is only one person I must hold dearest above all else - me. As long as both the guy and the girl within you - don't start having a serious relationship with one another, you are probably okay.  LOL
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                  Of course, we all know loving thy self is a crucial component of happiness - but we rarely stop to really do it. Okay, at least I don't - you're probably smarter than Renee. ::)) 

                  Is real love a function of how we look?
                  Nah - that's like. Do you think I honestly loved myself more in picture "A" - than picture "B"? I sure hope not!! The only difference between those two photos is about 15 pounds - and a lot more knowledge on how to apply make up and take pictures. Pounds of fat - or ounces of foundation - have nothing to do with love.  

                  My father used to tell me: Look at every woman like she is 100 years old - and you'll find you're soul mate. He found his. I'm getting convinced my perfect match is buried deep inside of me. Since I started looking at Renee as the 100 year old hag she really is - I'm just now discovering her best features. 

                  One's appearance has little to do with how we feel about ourselves - as much as we'd like to think otherwise. My love for Renee is a function of a lot more than looks - it's about inner happiness!

                  Finding - and maintaining - inner happiness is what life is all about. ::))