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Introduction to Cross Dressing
Ever fantasize of changing from a gal like this?
Into a girl like this?
Yep - that’s me - in both photos!
I’m not ashamed of where I came from and I’m dedicated to helping beginners and seasoned vets alike get the most from their trans experience.
Once you've been dressing or living as a woman for a while, it's easy to forget there’s lots of wonderful people just starting to explore their female side.
Most new girls don't yet know the difference between a pump and a mule - when it comes to lady's shoe styles. I certainly didn't when I started.
Perhaps you harbored "transition fantasies": I sometimes imagined getting transgender Breast Augmentation or at the very least - witnessing my own breast growth from MTF Hormone Therapy.
My website provides a comprehensive guide on how to get the most out of your crossdressing life.
If you someday think you might want to go further? I offer a detailed handbook about how to successfully change your gender as a MTF Transsexual.
The best part?
It's all free!
Additional related sections you might want to review?
How to Crossdress
Tips for Beginning Fetish Crossdressers
Crossdressing Tips - Beginners
Wig Selection, Care and Tips
Crossdressing Shopping and Fashion Guide
Tips for Taking Great Photos as a Crossdresser
Learning to Live Happily as a Part Time Trans-Woman
Tips for Wives and Girlfriends of Crossdressers
Sex and the Transgender Girl
Or…take a glance through some of my free personal favorite photos:
Think You Could Never Look Feminine?
Lots of guys want to dress and / or "transform" into female - but the imagery staring back from their mirror appears too masculine to even attempt that process.
See that guy with the mustard sweatshirt above? He - was once me - and I could transform and fully pass as female even when I looked that masculine.
The internet changed everything - for all transgenders. If you can't learn enough on-line to at least look fairly feminine? I'm going to have to ask you to turn in your panties. *Laugh*
There's just too much good information and too many nice, helpful people for you not to at least achieve your basic female goal.
One problem? There's literally too much information. Thus, I tried to organize what I consider to be the very best sites and ideas on particular issues - with dressing for first timers and early stagers in mind.
I hope it helps you a little.
Getting Past the Mental Barriers to Crossdress
One of the BIGGEST challenges new girls face is getting slightly depressed when they first begin their feminine journey.
Many feel they got to the party too late. They believe they're too old to start seriously pursuing crossdressing. Others look at photos of some knock-out-tranny and silently mutter - "I could never look anything like her."
Almost every guy on the planet can appear lovely as a woman with appropriate style & skills.
When I first began dressing? My appearance would have frightened small children and most adults. Fortunately, I didn't put anybody through that misery...although my poor dog got plenty nervous with the results. *Laugh*
I regret having thrown away my earliest photo's, but trust me - I looked hideous! The pretty woman inside - just couldn't seem to find her way into the image staring back from my mirror.
The photo I just shared above? It wasn't near my worst. Rather, it was taken as a celebration for having lost 15 pounds. Can you imagine what I looked liked with another couple of chins? *Smile*
At only 5'9, I tipped the scales at well over 200 pounds. My once athletic thighs turned flabby from years of shuffling papers. When it came to applying make-up? I didn't even know what foundation & blush were - let alone how to use them.
I only knew one thing: I had a burning desire to express a female side of my persona.
Renee's adventure began slowly with the acquisition of select silky coverings from Victoria's Secret and other appealing lingerie . Before long, a wig was added to her arsenal. As time passed, additional accessories kept finding their way into her secret stash.
My new persona would don these dainty items every month or so relishing their softness. I'd usually become sexually excited by this process. However, the further I went? The more I just felt contentment & joy.
I shall always recall the first time I shaved that forest from her chest and midriff. What a mess! *Laugh* I had to use a powerful drain cleaner to unclog the pipes.
Guess what else happened? The drain cleaning mixture ate right through the PVC pipes...resulting in an expensive visit by a plumber. To add insult to injury? My chest broke out in a rash and itched for days.
What a blonde moment that was.
Don't be a "Blonde" - The Most Important Lesson for Beginning Crossdressers
If you had a chance to start your life over as a child...knowing what you know now - ever considered what you'd differently?
If you're like most of us, you'd probably focus on enjoying the process of growing up a bit more, wouldn't you?
You're about to get that second chance.
You're starting on a lovely journey towards finding happiness with all of you. There's a myriad of pleasurable and divine sites along this way. Take the time to relish each phase of your development.
Let me clue you in on an important secret to transgender happiness. No matter how hard you try...and no matter how much you learn? You'll always find another t-girl prettier than yourself.
Know what else?
This is for your pleasure - not anyone else's. If you define yourself by others? You'll never be happy.
I can promise you this: transgender beauty - comes from the inside not the exterior surface. Beauty is not something you put-on...it's something you bring out. Many sisters get so caught up in trying to improve their appearance that they fail to enjoy the pleasure of becoming beautiful.
Enjoy this second childhood while it lasts. Make it a fun and healthy one - and you'll become a balanced and happy adult t-girl in the years ahead.
Try to hurry it, and you'll eventually have to deal with your childhood issues again - when things are a lot more complicated.
Sound familiar? It should.
Listen to your own advice...and just have some fun!
Smiling often - is what life is really all about.
Cross Dressing Tips: First Define your Goal as a Crossdresser
Like everything else in the world, knowing where you want to go from the onset? It'll get you there twice as fast and for a lot less cash.
Going very far with your feminine persona takes time and lots more money than most new gals understand. Thus, I'd suggest you do a bit of homework first. You know what? It's not the items you acquire and love that you'll consider expensive. It's all that crap we you buy and never wear...that really burns you.
Take your time. Write down your plans. Search and read tips on the web. Get a feel for the feminine impression you desire to recreate. You'll be glad you first did this research before "jumping" into wasteful purchases.
Crossdressing for Personal Pleasure
Most newcomers express a feminine side of their personality by donning lingerie. It represents such a distinct representation of femininity. Don't you agree? I must admit I never truly felt femme - till the silk would hit my skin. Of course, like most new trans-women - I sometimes fantasized about someday getting breast augmentation or at the very least - seeing breast growth from female hormones.
Many of you've probably been doing this in some manner for many years: starting by borrowing hose and panties from "dear old mom", testing silky items of an unsuspecting spouse or girlfriend. That's how I started. My poor mother and sister had no idea where all those pantyhose went.
If some private feminine sensation is your goal? I'd suggest purchasing the following basic inventory to enhance your pleasure. With these items in hand, browse the next sections about shopping and feminizing. Acquire the basic make-up and clothing size information you'll need...and go have some fun, sweetheart.
One additional point to consider? Some of you just getting started tend to bypass the application of any make up or painting of your nails and toes. Trust me: this is a capital mistake. Running your hands over your stocking covered thighs is a killer experience. However, doing it with bright red fingertips? Trust me...it'll add a lot of pleasure. You don't have to be an expert - just enjoy the basics. It all comes off so quick and easy. Try it...you'll like it.
Sample Inventory For First Time Crossdressers
- • Garter Belt*
- • Stockings
- • Panties
- • Bra**
- • Pair of Heels
- • Sheer Cover for those hairy arms
- • Clip on Earrings
- • Necklace
- • Wig
- • Lipstick & Matching "Lip Liner"
- • Bottle of "Foundation" one shade lighter than your own complexion
- • Nail Polish
- • Nail Polish Remover
- • Packet of "Blush"
- • Tube of "Mascara"
- • Make Up Remover Pads
- • A Very Close Shave :))
Here's an early picture of me when I knew little about make up, and in a "get up" like I've just described:
*Garter Belt: Garter belts come in all shapes and sizes. If you've got some extra weight in your tummy, I'd suggest getting a larger one that has "lace up" adjustments to enhance your figure. Frederick's of Hollywood carries a nice one for about $35.00.
**Bra: Measure your chest with a cloth tape around your nipples - this is your bra size. If it measures to an odd number, move "up" to the nearest even number. Then, I'd suggest you drop it down a size to help enhance the look of your cleavage. Your cup size (A,B,C, etc.) will be negligible to start with but hey...that's why God created socks
Finding more pleasure from your private crossdressing
Develop an on-line existence
Not only is the internet a wealth of information for tips - it's also an incredible resource to meet other crossdressers and trans girls.
There's always Craigslist for local connections - but sites like URNOTALONE - offer an easy opportunity to expand your image and make friends nationally.
Get Rid of your “shame” from Crossdressing
When most men were boys, they felt shameful after having privately masturbated. Alas, anything that feels that good must be wrong, no? LOL
I crafted a detailed set of tips about losing the shame and better enjoying your crossdressing experience here!
For many of us, the most challenging aspect of cross dressing isn’t learning how to appear feminine. Rather, it’s not feeling badly about ourselves over this in-born need we all share.
One of my most known attributes in the trans-community is that I never “out” anyone about they're dressing - even if they piss me off. Everybody knows this abut me & because of that fact, I’ve had an abnormal number of high-profile persona's share the fact that they privately dress when able.
The reason I share this with you is to remind you that you’re not alone.
This desire is far more common than most realize - from the White House to Wall Street - it’s happening every day all around you. The only ugly aspect of transgender expression is that we live in a world where people fear persecution for simply “being themselves”.
Don't be ashamed of who and what you are: hold your head high, smile - and just enjoy the journey. At the end of the day? That's the key to happiness no matter what you face.