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One in Five Guys is a CrossdresserDo you already know a cross dresser?


Don’t
think you already know a person with alternative gender issues? Might be wise to reconsider. It’s estimated over 5% of all males are drawn to actively adorn women’s clothing & expression. That number doesn’t include those who just play around with it as an occasional fetish - which is estimated to add another 15% of guys.

Additional Chapters in This Section Include:

Understanding Transgenderism
Do You Already Know a Crossdresser?
What's Up with all these different labels?
Important Terminology in the Transgender Community
Additional Slangs and Terminology
Problems Associated with Transgender Labels
Transgender Happiness
Telling Your Friends You're Transgender
Crossdressing in Public
Making Transgender Friends
Your Evolution as a Transgender Lady
Finding Happiness in a Dress

In other words? About 20% of all the men you know have some sort of pleasure or thing going on with alternative gender fun.


Who is Transgender?

Alas, few men are comfortable sharing these desires with others. The reason you’re not aware many of your friends & family members privately explore this freedom of expression? It’s usually considered a fetish, wrong & shameful.

Crossdressing is a form of transgender behavior but in mild manners it doesn’t necessarily mean that such a man is transgendered. Imagine if women were still unable to wear pants and a fitted blouse. Come to think about it?
Not being able to cross traditional gender boundaries - is actually a rather bizarre aspect of being male in comparison to women.


Who are these transgender women?



So who are the guys who are wearing panties under their three-pieced suits? I've found there to be absolutely no barriers by typical "sorting methods" such as age, geography, socio-economic status, cultural issues, etc. T-girls run the gamut - within all walks of life.

You likely already know a transgender girl
very well. It could be your assistant - or your boss. It could be your most hated enemy - or your best friend. It could be your janitor - or US Senator. Until the classification of transgender girls moves beyond that of a "sexual deviation" - and into that of a sexual identity - as uneventful as male & female - you'll never know who amongst the people around you is "T". We usually gain little - and lose a lot - by sharing our transgendered nature with others.    

One thing you'll quickly discern is
these girls are not air heads They tend to have very high IQ's. The average person who goes through with a sex change operation is about three sig above the mean - or about 145 IQ. The average "TV" is about one sig above the mean. This high level of intelligence often equates typically equates to a fun person - with a very mischievous mind.
Transsexual Intellect

Being a trans-girl tends to develop a more well rounded individual. Most importantly: we learn
why it takes three hours for women to get ready to "go out". For all you guys that wondered about the answer to this age old mystery? Here it is. It really only takes a woman about 15 minutes to get ready. The other 2 hours and 45 minutes is spent fixing - what she screwed up in those first 15 minutes. LOL 
Honestly, that's closer to the truth than you'll ever understand -
until you try it. *smile* 

Reasons for the large number of trans gals



Traditional estimates place men who are in some way transgendered at between 5-10% of the total male population. Renee's take on it? Try 50%+. Why such a large disagreement between Renee and the army of psychologists? First, I've had too many frank discussions with men regarding some potential desire to don feminine clothing. I've found very few who profess otherwise. 

I doubt we'll ever get an accurate picture of how large this segment. Why? Because admitting such desires is viewed as too shameful to most males. However, I'm betting if I did the interviews, I could get over 50% of any basic group of men to admit some degree of interest. (My lifetime average is 73%) Why? Because I know how to make them feel it's okay to admit an interest on a one on one basis. I know how to take away the fear, anguish, frustration and humiliation associated with even hinting of such a predication. 
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I'm sure many of you are convinced I probably slant my questions where the respondent has no choice but to answer in a manner that reveals some type of transgenderism. I don't - I am a scientist by training. 

What about the balance of males who truly feel no need to express femininity in an alternative manner (dressing in some way)?  I believe these people to be the most trans-gendered of all. Why? Because the ones I've met, exhibit a glorious balance between male and female already. Their contentment between these two genders has been a source of jealousy for me on one or more occasion. They are - in effect - my hero's.

The overall lack of gender dysphasia amongst women - who already addressed and bested the challenge of assuming male roles and personas at the turn of the last century - supports my opinion.



"Evolution" of Transgender Women
Trans-Darwinism
Where am I?

Most t-girls go through between one and four stages of evolution in their quest towards feminine expression. Many girls achieve a perfect sense of male / female balance after only one stage - lucky them! However, a lot of us are forced to endure a much longer process as we search and discover how important expressing our female side is to our daily happiness - and how far we need to go in doing so.
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Additional Chapters in This Section Include:

Understanding Transgenderism
Do You Already Know a Crossdresser?
What's Up with all these different labels?
Important Terminology in the Transgender Community
Additional Slangs and Terminology
Problems Associated with Transgender Labels
Transgender Happiness
Telling Your Friends You're Transgender
Crossdressing in Public
Making Transgender Friends
Your Evolution as a Transgender Lady
Finding Happiness in a Dress

The ugly part of evolution is that each new stage tends to bring about new priorities - and conditions. This is hard enough on us t-girls - but just imagine what it does to those close to us. We get them accepting one person - and then bang - we begin changing into another. It's sort of like female menopause - only it often happens more than once with us. How bout them apples? LOL

We need our loved ones to understand us. Healthy relationships with those people close to us are as important as the air we breath. By getting a handle on where we are in this evolutionary process, we can better manage the specific challenges associated with our current stage.

There are two important points to remember before studying trans-evolution. First, this process is different for the certified transsexual - those girls who have absolutely no connection to their male body other than having to transform it to female. My analysis refers to the 80%+ of us who have a strong connection with our femininity and seek ways to express it. 

Second, there is no one level higher on the evolutionary ladder than the other. I repeat: No one is better than the other. The only difference between a t-girl that reaches womanhood and the gal forever in infancy is simply a matter of personal happiness - not any form of superiority.
The goal is not really womanhood - but rather - balance!! In fact, I'm of the opinion that girls who can maintain balance & bliss by simply donning pantyhose on occasion - are perhaps the most gifted of all t-girls. Unfortunately, Renee is not a member of this elite group. 

If you are just beginning to deal with your transgenderism, I'd suggest you pray to whatever deity you feel might be looking out for 'ya - that you require no multi-phased evolution. It sucks!! LOL  

    Eventually finds balance by simply enjoying this little fetish for what it is - a source of release, relaxation - and pleasure.

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      People who find balance at this stage are often the happiest t-girls I've ever met. Personally, I feel society's norms regarding those who go further with dressing - are the reason why gals in next phase tend to be less happy than this group. 

        This is a wonderful period of discovery in new sensations and female  experiences. It is also quite dangerous! Teen desires are typically not ideal in adult environments. Many married gals get stuck in this stage due to familial constraints. Subsequently, some make less than optimal decisions in moving forward - including leaving a good marriage for all the wrong reasons.

          Why? It's not so much because of the challenges she has mastered, but rather - her ability to master challenges. Her happiness comes from enjoying the wonderful blend of her femininity in all facets of her life. 

          Did you find yourself in any of these phases? What I find most interesting when I look at this sort of evolutionary table is just how young a woman Renee really is - regardless of how old her knees are. *G*   

          Be careful what you wish for

          In retrospective, I've begun to realize Renee has evolved a lot like any other woman. I started off focusing pretty much on just looking and acting like a woman (i.e. being able to pass as a female). This was similar to how a young female teenager evolves. 
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          I assure you this was a tougher task than my current photos might indicate. I have never been one to look feminine en drab - I'm typically one of the last people that can be guessed out of DRAG. My chest and body hair require a bush hog to even phase removal. My waist line & chin(s) looked a bit different at the onset. My always large calves seemed as unfeminine as a mustache. Suddenly, through slow and steady effort - I saw a pretty hot little female peeking from my loins. Trouble was, I really had no worthwhile plans for her beyond that.

          In trying to figure out how to grow beyond my teen years, I began to seriously evaluate what motivated me to improve in my dressing and appearance. I came up with a list of needs which most growing gals face once they get beyond the basics of being able to pass as a woman. I'll be the first to admit this is a work in progress - as is Renee. I'm still sorting out what is important, what is the highest priority, etc. - and a lot remains a moving target. 

          I suppose my desires and goals are actually dynamic. As other areas of my life evolve - priorities shift in matters well outside of Renee's control. Whatever the reasons, I'm searching hard for steady ground. ::)) 

          Remember folks - I'm baring my soul a bit here - so no wise cracks from the peanut gallery. 

          Renee's Needs ( In no particular priority )

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              Renee's Don't Needs

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                  The horror of loneliness

                  You will enjoy so many new and wonderful experiences as your transgenderism begins pervading your life. However, as your evolution occurs, you will experience some of the most intense loneliness your soul has ever come to know. You can visit a lot of my sister's home pages and get a glimpse in more graphic detail of the pain that can be associated with being T. You don't see much of that here - but girlfriend - I have those days as well. In general I try to remain very happy - only because I detest the alternative.

                  I've found my intense periods of loneliness have been derived from a narrow group of sources. First, is financial. Nothing will take the starch out of your skirt quite like being broke! Second, is a recovery period from an extreme experience. Doing something that pushes a new boundary is usually stupid - and I tend to regret it for some time. Regret breeds loneliness. 

                  Finally, are those periods when I have too few relationships to rest my weary head upon. Because of the problems associated with sharing our gender issues with others, most of us allow few people into our inner circle. This short list can result in some pretty empty feelings  - sort of like we are living one big lie called life.

                  Life is so very fragile - and challenging enough without gender issues. Sustained happiness tends to occur when your seesaw is parallel to mother earth. The sensation of bending your life board downward will be so very tempting at times. However, the slow and meticulous process of getting back to even ground will act as a reminder of the dangers of extremism. 

                  In general, many people who show an interest in your well being will have less than optimal motivations. T-girls - as a rule - have few really good friends. Finding other t-girls with your same experiences, your current status in evolution, your age, your intellect, etc. - is quite challenging. Many friends, no matter how they might try otherwise - will have a deeper sexual agenda than your soul needs from friends. 

                  You might feel compelled to tell more people. I think you should be careful in getting on your high horse in this matter. There is really not a good reason for many people to know. I never told my father (he died in 1988) and I only told my mother in 1999. I waited until the impact on her views regarding me would be lessened - for her benefit. 

                  You will have close friends whom your t--bond will become special. In some instances, you will lean on the foundation of their friendship when your heels are worn and your soul is tired. Because of the challenges in their own lives and the needs of others that depend upon them - they will sometimes pull their shoulder away from your head - just when you need it most.

                  Loneliness is a real cost of being unique. Let's move on...I'm getting depressed! ::))

                  Love thy self


                  Ren-A

                  To find happiness in the middle, I've really found there is only one person I must hold dearest above all else - me. As long as both the guy and the girl within you - don't start having a serious relationship with one another, you are probably okay.  LOL
                  RenB07

                  Of course, we all know loving thy self is a crucial component of happiness - but we rarely stop to really do it. Okay, at least I don't - you're probably smarter than Renee. ::)) 

                  Is real love a function of how we look?
                  Nah - that's like. Do you think I honestly loved myself more in picture "A" - than picture "B"? I sure hope not!! The only difference between those two photos is about 15 pounds - and a lot more knowledge on how to apply make up and take pictures. Pounds of fat - or ounces of foundation - have nothing to do with love.  

                  My father used to tell me: Look at every woman like she is 100 years old - and you'll find you're soul mate. He found his. I'm getting convinced my perfect match is buried deep inside of me. Since I started looking at Renee as the 100 year old hag she really is - I'm just now discovering her best features. 

                  One's appearance has little to do with how we feel about ourselves - as much as we'd like to think otherwise. My love for Renee is a function of a lot more than looks - it's about inner happiness!

                  Finding - and maintaining - inner happiness is what life is all about. ::))